Married women of reddit, what would you do or say if you found out your SO was in contact with an ex and didn’t tell you?

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1. He would have a very bad time coming, that’s for sure…

2. A) husband would be dealing with eldest two children(38&35) until I got my temper under control. B) there would be groveling or a vicious divorce lawyer. He had his dinner with ex 39 yrs ago. That bad word I’m not allowed to say had *better* not darken my doorstep EVER again.

   I have a *scary*, vicious temper and work really really REALLY hard not to lose it entirely, like EVER.

3. Ask them about it???? What else am I gonna do? Contact is contact. It’s the only appropriate thing to do unless there’s been an understanding made on such circumstances beforehand or proof of anything nefarious going on.

4. I told him that I didn’t think it was healthy for him. I trusted him that it wasn’t anything sexual or romantic, but I don’t think he realized how much bad shit about their previous relationship it was bringing up.

5. Leave him

6. Well, one time this happened to me. I called the ex and left a VM. The next morning she called me- she was very nice and I apologized. We had a nice chat. She didn’t know he had a new gf. He had been calling her giving her the impression they were still together but he was too busy to see her. There’s more, but that’s all I want to share.