Okay, so there’s this girl I worked with who has a boyfriend. She became one of my best friends and I fell head over heels in love with her. We’d spend every free moment together at work and spent most of that time teasing and flirting. I recently took another opportunity that had to move me across the country from South Carolina to California. Man was it painful leaving, I took it in part to avoid the pain of being in love with a girl in relationship, but have quickly found out how much she really means to m3 and would pass up this dream opportunity to just go back to how things were.
I had a really tough time saying good bye in person and I think she did too, but I texted her letting her know how much she meant to me and how much I’d miss our friendship. She sent a sweet message back. And I learned through a friend the message I sent made her cry.
Do you think there’s any chance she has feelings for me?
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She for sure has the squishies for you.
Honestly, someone can be very sad at losing a friend or work colleague and even shed tears at the loss. But that doesn’t mean she was in love or had any type of attraction to you besides being a close, trusted friend. If she didn’t reveal any feelings for you, just know she considered you a special friend.
It sort of doesn’t matter. Like, the real question is if she likes you enough to break up with her boyfriend. She didn’t while you were around.
When dramatic stuff happens, like someone moving away, it can heighten feelings and create a sense of urgency that isn’t authentic. So someone could feel more strongly in that moment than they were in all the time leading up to it. Like that movie The Graduate. They couldn’t be together and then he ran into her wedding and then they ran away together, and in the final scene they are on the bus, and you can sort of see the reality sink in. Like, you finna ruin a professional opportunity for a “maybe” situation, considering that up until the day you left, she wasn’t making moves to be with you?
You can ask her, if you want to be sure. But you should also prepare yourself for what happens if she says no. Don’t drag yourself through what-ifs. Go be happy.
She has feelings. They don’t matter enough for her to be with you. It sucks.