Why were you hesitant to get in your current/last relationship?

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1. At the time, I was hesitant because I was getting into a relationship with a man. I’ve hooked-up with men before but not been in an actual relationship with one before. But living with him for a while made me realize that I actually didn’t want to get married to a woman and have children like I thought I did. I just convinced myself that I did.

   It doesn’t help that I’m an older guy and being queer in any sort of way was an invitation for violence. For both my SO and I, we don’t give off any signals that we’re a couple of any kind as this is what we’re used to doing. So to most people, we come off as bros. And of course, we are that but we’re much more than that behind closed doors.

2. She lived 4 states away.

3. I wasn’t fully physically attracted to her and I tried to overlook it. It worked okay, till she expected me to change to a guy she wants. Frequently taking her out, always calling, always spending time. I can’t go out of my way to do all nice gestures when i’m not even fully attracted to someone.

4. Avoidant attachment issues, recognized the signs, flares, rockets she was sending (& others) but ignored all until she asked me out directly.

5. Chemistry was there. But so were the red flags. Like all the red flags. She was just so attractive.
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6. Women are garbage who think they are perfect.

   Because there is little to gain and a great deal to lose.

   Because women only value men as beasts of burden and having to give anything back is, “oppression”.

   Bitches ain’t loyal.

   Because it’s stupid to buy a beat up old used car and pay the new car price.

   Because I know women hate men and the nice period at the start of a relationship is only temporary. Women can’t suppress their bigotry for long.