When you have to justify yourself regarding something you don’t want to give the real reason. Do you find yourself stating several fake reasons to see if any one of them sticks?

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1. The BIGGEST thing to understand when learning to be assertive and set appropriate boundaries is that no one is ENTITLED to a REASON. (exception: your significant other, maybe your parents in the context of an important family thing)

   So an answer like, “Sorry, I won’t be able to make that, but thanks for asking,” — that is ENOUGH.

   Anyone who keeps pushing for a “reason” is automatically rude, and you can just keep repeating a variation of the above.

   “Sorry, it just won’t work for me. Maybe next time.”

   Etc.