For context :I have never had sex with a girl before and I don’t want to blow it.
I told her I am not into women when we first met which was very true, but our friendship has been the best I’ve had in 4 months of knowing each other and I think I am starting to develop other feelings.
A few weeks ago we started cuddling while watching tv shows and it’s made me realise how affected I am. She is a model and I have always appreciated female bodies but with her I go overboard with the fantasies in my head which I feel wierd about.
I’ve caught myself staring at her boobs too many times and when I’m spooning her her whole body feels so amazing next to me, sometimes it feels so intense and I always end up soaked.I have never hinted anything sexual or tried to touch her sexually without consent. She is not seeing anyone and I have jokingly hinted that we could end up fucking one day and she gave a very positive response – as if daring me to and also mentioning hat she’d give me head in peculiar places anytime.
Now, people of reddit, I am really nervous and the undefined sexual tension between us is killing me.(She has no idea) I am going to ask her if she is down and there’s a 90% chance she’ll say yes but WHAT DO I DO??? We talk about sex a lot and I know what she likes but I feel nervous about it. I need tips on what to do.
TLDR: I was kinda straight but I really want to know what she tastes like.🙂 I need advice on how to please her
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Don’t worry about it too much. Do what feels right. Ask questions be open. And enjoy yourselves 😀
The more sex you have with other women, the better you will get at it.
Just tear into her and be enthusiastic and hungry. Worry about technique later.
Do everything men do to you before penetration.
If she goes in knowing you don’t have experience with other women, I’m sure she’ll be open to questions and enthusiasm. Those are the two best things to take into any sexual encounter.
Keep resuming eye contact, including while tasting her.
It sounds like you’ll be the one getting the ball rolling. Get behind her and ease your weight into her torso for just a moment, say by pressing hips against ass. Let up and kiss on the ears. I don’t mean shove her around. Gently entice her to either lie face down, or stand right in front of a counter.
When she’s giving head, greet her service by brushing your thigh against her face, and putting your hands on her head. Gather her hair. Use your foot to caress her butt and back.
As the song “WAP” says, swipe that nose like a credit card. Really show off how much your face wants it.
When giving head, also massage her G-spot. Wait a couple of minutes to add that in, from then on don’t stop it. Also stick a finger or two in her butthole — again, not until you’ve been working her G-spot for a while. For a finger to enter into that hole, it needs to be covered with saliva — hers or yours. When you keep looking up into her eyes, that’s another gift to her.
Scissor Me Timbers!
I’m a dude so I don’t feel qualified to help but I’d also like to learn from your experience.
I mean, next time you’re snuggling, ask if you can kiss her. Tell her you’ve been getting curious.
Make her orgasm with oral first, and then you satisfy yourself with her holes.
Ahhhh I relate to this soo much. Don’t get too in your head about it. As a woman there are obvious similarities with pleasure that y’all share so lean into those. I’d focus on lots of foreplay and kissing, and teasing is what does it for me like just really taking your time to warm her up and kissing inner thighs etc . Also tips once she is warmed up a little hack is to put pressure on her lower stomach / mons pubis area cause that stimulates the clit / gspot from the outside I believe. It feels really good. You can push down with one hand and finger her at the same time with the other or rub her clit . Also just try different motions of rubbing her clit and just you know watch her busy language and stick with one thing that’s she’s responding to unless she says differently. Also to be honest some porn videos are helpful like Nina Hartley does great instructional videos that I’ve watched cause I’m a “ baby gay/ bi “ lol. But also a lot of that depends on if she’s a top or bottom or switch so bottom line just communicate.. it can be sexy like asking “ do ya like that? Or “ I love eating your pussy/ the way you taste .. do you like this ? Or “you like it when I eat your pussy? or some variation of that haha
If you have long nails, get rid of them. When you finger her, you want to be able to drive your finger tip pads into the anterior wall of her vagina. Don’t be afraid to ask her to tell you when you’ve hit the spot, it is different for different women.
Also, when you go down on her, don’t be afraid to ask if she wants licking or sucking, direct or indirect clit play, etc. Different women have different sensitivities, some want their clit sucked as hard as you can, others are so sensitive that you will have more success teasing the clitoral shaft than the actual clitoris.
When I’m with women, I do everything to them that feels great to have someone do to me. I’ve always had great feedback, so it works.
Remember she comes first.
Why don’t you just ask her or let her lead? I’m sure she’ll be thrilled that you’re not just joking anymore and actually want to have sex with her. Just be honest and tell her that you don’t know what you’re doing, but that you’re eager to please and want to know how to do that for her.
If you watch Inbetweeners, Jay has a wealth of information about having sex
> I don’t want to blow it
Don’t worry, you won’t have to blow anything.
do what you like done to you i guess
The biggest thing is to let her know you’re interested before she finds someone else.
Do research online on different techniques on how to do oral and stuff like that. My ex has never been in a relationship with another woman before but somehow managed to do good for a first-timer.
Maybe just ask her? People LOVE to teach newbies.
In my honest opinion,
I would insert the penis slowly (but prior to doing so, foreplay is a must) then start teasing with your tip. Slap clit with the tip, rub it with your tip, keep teasing her and then put it in. After, you want to start thrusting slowly, not for her, but for you so you understand the tempo of the thrust. Then you can speed up if you want to too. If she likes anal same thing kinda, but try little-by-little. It hurts the girls. But I think I have good advice. OH ALSO, nipple play is very good too, slap her ass too.
The absolute most important thing you can do is just BE IN THE MOMENT. When you are touching her, focus on nothing but her. Listen to her breathing, feel her body twitching, pay attention to how she reacts to your touch. Hopefully she is experienced enough to know how to express how she feels and you’ll be able to enjoy together. In my experience, slow, soft, and gentle feather-touching is the best way to build tension and tease the senses and find that connection between you and your partner.
That said, a baseline for what to do to her is basically “do to her what you’d like someone to do to you”, and take any feedback constructively.
As a woman who has had sex with other women that have never been with women (confusing start to a sentence sorry lol), I pretty much do all the work to start. Which is what I would let her do. Let her go down on you, touch you, kiss your body, or as much of these things as you’re comfortable with. Make sure you don’t feel weird or uncomfortable about the fact that a woman is doing these things to you. And then you can start with touching her and see how that makes you feel. Be gentle, men tend to get too rough and really think they’re doing something. I would just start slow is what I’m trying to say. Because it would be embarrassing for the other girl if you went down on her and then realized you think a vagina is gross or something
all you have to do is what you like done to you, if you like oral a certain way do it that way to her, fingering ect. as a woman it’s easier to please a woman knowing how we already like things and also don’t be afraid to ask her “does that feel good, what would you like me to do”