What’s the one thing you didn’t have but make sure your kids will?

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1. Strict dental hygiene routines

2. A life free of physical beatings from their father.

3. 1×1 time. Usually dinner and desert where they can tell me about whatever they want or they can just sit back and play my games on my phone and chat about the games. Just giving them time to express who they are.

   My mom and dad didn’t raise my brother and I. I did. They were too busy fighting with each other. I have 5 sons and 1 girl on the way. They all get one on one time.

   Also my wife and I take time to be affectionate with each other. We go on dates, we’re very expressive with each other and loving without being inappropriate of course. They need to see a healthy relationship that neither my wife or I witnessed in our childhoods.

4. Everything

5. kids

6. I want them to have all the social skills and business knowledge

7. One of those Power Wheels Jeeps. FFS I wanted one of those so bad as a kid.

8. Mobile phones

9. Permanent home. Dont have to move every week or every month.

10. Help setting up investment accounts.

11. The feeling of safety and someone to run/talk to

    I want my kids to have the life I never had, I will put that kid on a pedestal and raise them higher then myself, to have choices I never had and a vision of what they want to be, not dreaming of someone finding their body in a skip bin

12. A non-narcissistic father.

    I mean I probably won’t have a kid, but if I did, I’ll make sure his father isn’t a narcissitic asshole who believes he’s the best at everything and his children should be grateful for the sacrifices that he didn’t make.

13. Took me some time to come up with something. I had great childhood and still have great relations with my parents.

    So…my parents were very poor as kids. For example: they had sweets and some fruits like oranges only once a year (christmas). They wanted me to have it all what they didn’t have…so i was a fat kid.

    What i provide to my kids is more healthy diet. Except that, i copy what my parents did 100%.

14. Condoms

15. Healthy parents that really love eachother, whose morals are straight and strong, parents that can stay, parents that will make them feel comfortable enough that they can talk about ANYTHING that’s on their mind

16. Cats

17. Loving family.

18. Visits to Jurassic Park

19. The ability to go through college and graduate with zero student loan debt.

20. Proper communication with their father. No matter their gender.

21. That they feel comfortable crying in front of me.

22. Peace

23. A father who actually participates in their lives, and they can come and talk to.

    Well, who am I kidding, I’ll probably be one of those dads who work till 11PM so they don’t have to see their kids.

24. A stable upbringing.

25. a judgement-free, emotionally warm home where they can safely open up

26. If I do have kids then I’ll make sure that he has emotionally available parents who have a healthy relationship with the kid and each other.

27. Knowing who their biological father is and what he looks like

28. Cooking skills before leaving house. And a dad

29. Kid will learn how to cook and use power tools from me. Also finance and understanding how the world *really* works.

    Gardening as well.

    While I had amazing parenting (caring and worrying about my future as far as school and getting a degree were concerned) no one taught me shit about basic/needed life skills.

    I had to search and learn with trial and error (quite the number of errors at that) things as I went.

    My little girl will learn at her own pace everything I can teach.

30. Both parents in the house. I don’t wanna be a dad, I wanna be a father and actually be there physically for my child and be more to them than just a voice or a child support check.

31. A prenup.

32. A dad

33. Love

34. Chop sticks! Becomes a huge barrier to eating and trying tons of foods… so many potential experiences.

35. 1 parent in their life always

36. A dad that talks to them, encourages them and is generally present and loving.

    I can control that at least, no matter what.

    Unless I die young anyway.

37. A strong supportive father

38. A loving father.

39. I honestly don’t think I’ve ever once had a conversation with either of my parents. My mom died when I was 18 and my dad was an extremely quiet man who you could spend an entire day with and he *might* say 12 words to you.

    My son knows he can tell me pretty much anything he wants and I’ll actually listen. And if he asks me a question I’ll do my best to give him a heartfelt answer. He also knows that I will never tease him or make him feel bad for anything he says or likes.

    I guess basically I respect my kid as a person. And I treat him like one too.

40. The tools and hopefully ability to ask for help and know I’ll be there to help as best as I can. My hope is that they can recognize and willingly ask for help instead of trying to carry all of their burdens on their own. I hope they learn to use their support systems and don’t wait until they’re 30 to figure out they have depression and long term issues because of not dealing with it early on. I just want them to have a better mental and emotional foundation than I did.