I 20(M) can’t last when I’m having sex.
The only position I last in is when the girl is on top of me and riding me and that’s mostly because I don’t feel much.
When I’m in any other position, I cum in seconds!
A few strokes if I’m not putting on a condom.
I’d appreciate any suggestions, I’ve tried stopping when I feel it but it doesn’t work, I cum anyways.
Funny thing is the first time i had sex I lasted for longer than I expected and I want to go back to those good old days!
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How much do you masturbate?
It goes away over time.. then she be asking you to hurry up!
If slowing down doesnt help have you tried mental things like naming every player of a football team in order? Thats what i used to do back when I was in your boat.
Lots to go into there, porn/masturbation amounts impact this, frequency of sex, your age, health, etc.
There are times that my SO and I have so much build up, that neither one of us last very long once I penetrate her – which is fine, because it was an all day build up.
If you have other blood health issue (blood pressure, hear rate, etc.) then it may need a prescription to help if you don’t address the underlying health points.
If you are generally healthy, try edging while masturbating for awhile.
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Edge while u masturbate, and do kegel exercises periodically to strengthen pelvic floor.
Dose hims work? It’s a pill
There is a school of thought, that may depend on the person, that says not masturbating actually eventually helps even things out. The idea is that masturbating usually results in orgasm too soon or fails to produce stimulation similar to a vagina and a live human which makes orgasm with a partner a whole thing on its own.
So the idea is to not masturbate and only orgasm from sex. This creates a psychological process in your mind that calms your brain down and helps things in bed.
The idea is you are over masturbating and the porn heightens that so stop and let your body read and even out.
Make sure to have a lot of sex with her on top! Many women can come easier that way.
While there are things to try, this is often something that just solves itself as you age.
order some Roman Swipes
A fleshlight might help desensitise your penis so that when your having sex with your girlfriend your penise doesn’t go into pleasure overdrive. Your penis will get use to the feeling and alot of fleshlights have crazy textures so that when your having vaginal sex it will feel less stimulating then the actual fleshlight. Nothing weird about owning one. I see it as the equivalent of a male dildo and 90% of women probably own a dildo lol. Good luck buddy
Practice edging, look it up and try to get good at it in masturbation.
Triangular breathing technique works a treat. Look it up
If it helps, this is a much better problem to have than not being able to finish. This problem almost always gets better over time.
Is it because it feels so good or more nerves/anxiety related? One of my ex’s would come in a stroke or two and it was down to anxiety.
Do delay sprays/gels offer any solutions? I’ve never actually tried them- worried they’d transfer to me and I don’t want to be numbed!