I’m 24f. I’d consider myself attractive, I’m complimented on my looks often, and yet almost every man I’ve been attracted to in the past few years doesn’t want to commit to just one person. I’ve never been afraid to make the first move, but I’ve dealt with a lot of rejection and toxic relationships.
I tried having a poly/open relationship once, but the guy I was with gaslit me and made me feel like I was psycho because he was interested in another girl and she was playing mind games with me. He didn’t listen to my concerns or my feelings and was convinced that I was just jealous. I can give more details if you’d like.
I think I have a superiority complex. If I’m not doing my best, I feel like I’m failing. If I’m in a relationship with someone, I want to be their one and only. I struggle with jealousy and intrusive thoughts. I’m trying to work through it, but every time I feel I’ve made progress, I’m struck with another toxic partner. Am I the toxic one?
So my question for poly women/ women in open relationships is: Do you ever get jealous? If so, how do you deal with it? Can you teach me your ways pretty please?
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Yes, poly people get jealous just like monogamous people do. The difference is that instead of trying to do things to avoid ever feeling jealous they confront it and try to manage the emotions surrounding it. For example, one thing to do is to look at jealousy as a result of feeling like your needs aren’t getting met in the relationship and to use that to kickstart a discussion with your partner about your feelings.
That being said there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to be poly and being monogamous.
Where do you go to find poly women?
Well , quit this poly bullshit. Its not for you