Girlfriend of two years wants me to be rougher with her during sex. I am historically more vanilla and sensual but am willing to do anything to please her. I already employ the typical hand on the throat, occasional hair pulling, grabbing and pinching. Sometimes by rougher I think she just means harder penetration, but sometimes when I’m going harder she asks me to slow down due to slight pain. What can I start doing to be rougher?
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Biting. Slapping. Handcuff her maybe or tie restraints. Get some hot candle (not any candle make sure it’s a sex candle) and pour the wax on her. Call her your dirty whore. Talk dirty to her. She wants you to dominate her. Pin her down.
Listen to me, it may be weird, but the idea that she swallows and/or takes a part of you with/inside her, can be a turn on.
You making your fluids mix with hers is a great way to let her know her place and who she belongs to, assuming she is open to it.
spit in her mouth, or on her body. The shower is a great place for a first time since she can easily wash assuming she doesnt like it…
Not too much noise, and not too much spit, you just need to make enough noise for her to understand what happens and enough fluid so that she feels it land in her mouth or on her tongue.
You can also go for the silent option and even let it slowly drip down to her tongue.
Lock eyes with her afterwards. Or kiss her… hell, she might even kiss you. 😃
Another thing, facials are risky, a good 1st time approach can be cumming on her lips, more sensual and less degrading, but still hot and dominant as fuck
Stroke her cheek as she sucks you off…
Next time you see her, push her to the bed, as if she is a man, it should be close to abusive.
Disregard her pleasure from time to time and fuck her only for your*** pleasure. She might like being used.
I can keep going all day man… it never ends, after you try a few of these asking her for details so you can make a better show next time wont hurt and wont make you less dom. It saves time
Distinguish (and have her specify) between physical roughness and a dominant/domineering attitude. Definitely cultivate the attitude, and inquire how rough she wants sex.
The experience of her begging you to ease up shows you’re getting the idea. You’re uninhibited enough to fuck as roughly as she can stand. She’s informing you when it gets to be more than she can stand. She’s accommodating you in learning her limits by trial and error.
r/SheLikesItRough, r/bdsm — for tips
In porn at the moment (as in Reddit porn), “rough sex” seems to connote just vigorous fucking, as opposed to deliberate sharp pain.
Here are some soft dom ideas. (Most of them happen to be about BJ, even BJ is not my favorite sex, although it’s great.)
* Light bondage: tie her by her wrists.
* When she’s beneath you, pin her arms or shoulders (if this is safe for her — make sure it is not straining her joints, and don’t bounce).
* During BJ: hold her head. Face fuck. Have her hold her hands against the back of her head. ATM (wipe yourself off between A and M). Trap her head with your leg bent at the knee. Take her as her head is backed against a wall.
Rough sex is only complete with the right dirty talk. You can be super rough but if you’re silent the whole time it totally ruins it. Make sure you’re whispering in her ear, hell even growling. Make her feel like you’re going feral for her lol
Use your hands more. My wife asks me to be rough sometimes but she doesn’t get down with anything choking related. So instead I use my hands to grab her hip bones…grab them hard with authority. Then in missionary I’ll lift her legs and squeeze her thighs hard while I fuck her. Then when spooning and penetrating from behind I caress her fairly strongly.
All of this can just make it feel more “rough” and “intense” while the actual penetration isn’t anything crazy.
Also a few good grunts and moans and some deep breathing from you can help while you do this. Everything just ups the intensity without going full hardcore.