I’m 16(M) and I haven’t had ANY friends in my life, besides maybe like one acquaintance in elementary school. I’m a very closed off person and it seems nobody cares about me. I even tried joining an after school club and my experience was the same as just going to school normally. Being ignored, unacknowledged, and alone. I could disappear one day and nobody would even care. I’ve never experienced anything people with friends do in my life such as hanging out.
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Well, why should people be friends with you ? Being lonely is not a valid reason. People interact with you when there is a reason to do so. Merely being kind, respectful, etc., are not traits that people necessarily look for, although you should have them. Are you a fun and exciting person to be around ? Do you impact or bring any value to other people ?
Most people want to be around somebody with exhibits good social skills. So How are your conversations with other people ? Do you have good social skills ? Do you listen to people when they speak, and do you speak when it is your turn to do so ? Oh, and when it is your turn to speak, do you speak with confidence and bring positive energy ? Or are you anxious and quiet ? All of these things are what people notice about you. You need to be exhibiting social skills right from the start. If you aren’t doing so, then you will be perceived as antisocial and you can’t expect people to include you into things. In general, Nobody cares why you are antisocial; they just make the judgement that you aren’t somebody they want to be around. You are how you act. Period.
Most people also like somebody who actively works towards something in life and accomplishes things in life such as goals, hobbies, skills, talents, etc. You need to establish yourself in something i.e. get good or excellent at something that people value or desire, and build a good reputation. But you yourself need to act and carry yourself in a respectable way. People should actually respect you.
The reality is in adulthood, you are judged by how you act around people in social situations, as well as what you do/accomplish in your life, and how you impact/deliver value to other people. Focus on those things.