How do you avoid being overwhelmed in online dating?

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1. Don’t use online dating. It’s hot garbage.

2. When I used to do dating apps before I met my boyfriend (on a dating app) I felt the same until I realized after a day or 2 that 90% of people that I matched with were trash lol so go in there with zero expectations

3. You can filter out a lot by putting something about halfway in your introduction so as not to have it stand out or be too obvious. Something like “All messages not starting with ‘Hello fair lady’ will be ignored/deleted/blocked”. That’s an easy way to make sure anyone messaging you has at least gone through the trouble of actually reading your info.

4. Look up the Burned Haystack dating method. It’s a way of eliminating most of the non-compatible people with very little effort from you. I don’t agree with everything she says, but it’s an intriguing idea.

5. I turned off all notifications and set my distance to 5 miles so I didn’t get messages from people too far away. Then instead of looking at messages or likes first I would read profiles to only swipe on people who I hoped to meet. Nobody else matters.

6. Go in with zero expectations. You will encounter a lot of trash so it’s better to expect trash and then be pleasantly surprised if you come across a functional human being.

7. You gotta get the paid-for version of the app. Unfortunately all the tools that make it a good experience are paywalled. Just pick one app, pay for one month, see how it goes. Protecting your peace of mind is worth 9.99 or whatever they’re charging on [tinder or bumble or hinge etc.]