Hi everyone, please I need y’all advice on my relationship life, being with my girlfriend for 3yrs now and this past couple months I noticed a drastic change in her that’s very concerning and bothers me a lot, changes like trying to cause unnecessary arguments, got mad at me for asking questions or trying to avoid the questions, increased in social media followers mostly guys few weeks ago i asked for us go through each others phone she refused, I managed to snatch the phone from her but she dragged it away from me and she told me if I go through her phone i will find somethings that will get me mad then I told her she’s cheating on me she said no, few days ago she proposed the ideal of us being just friends or she being my adopted sister I accepted it so I can see her reaction and she proceeded to let me know that she’s being talking a guy but they just meant and there’s nothing yet between them. But I later rejected the offer of me being her friend or whatever cause I don’t imagine seeing a girlfriend have spent 3yrs of my life emotional attach to being just my friend. Few nights ago I called her and asked her to be extremely honest with me if she want us to end the relationship so I can find some peace in my heart to forgive her and forgive myself, also to know exactly where I belong, she said she’s not leaving me, but everything she coming out of her mouth is totally different from her reaction. Her IG followers has increased by 70-75% and 90% is guys. What do you guys think I can do?
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She’s already cheated on you, tested the waters on breaking up, and not treating you well in general. I think you know what to do.
Her inaction is a protective mechanism. You’re a safety net. You’ll stick around until she can find something better, and she’s actively looking.
I’d tell her immediately that she’s already cheated on you and you have more self respect than to be a plan B. I’d wish her luck and not even entertain a conversation about it. Then I’d go through my place, find every last bit of anything that’s hers or yours together, put it in a box and drop it on her doorstep. Probably wouldn’t even ring the bell. Then I’d hit the gym like a savage, bury myself in work, and take up some new hobby until I didn’t even think about her anymore. At that point, I’d hit the bars, fire up the dating apps, and find myself a girl worthy of the man I had become.
>What do you guys think I can do?
Nothing, the relationship is already over and she is just stringing you along because she doesn’t want to be alone.
Even if she isn’t cheating, the relationship is dead.