Hi, so I’m just getting back out there fter a relationship and I wanted som advice/opinions.
I recently took new pictures. Lost 75 pounds and now get a haircut that suits my face. I got a new wardrobe as well.
Now for the last 5 years I’ve used hinge as my main source for dates. What I would do is pay for the premium membership for 3 months and just message girls I wanted to talk to. This usually led to a date and a relationship. The issue is that I would just play it as a numbers game so let’s say I message 20 people I would get three matches and one date.
I feel like hinge is just too mainstream now and I’ve just been seeing the same people from years ago.
The alternatives I’ve been using at least for online dating have been bumble and the league. I’ve been able to get dates and it at least limits it’s the number of times I can reach out to someone unlike hinge where I would send a lot of messages.
Now other options I’ve been thinking of is doing speed dating events and possibly matchmaking.
Does anyone recommend either any other apps or other ways to meet people in real life?
I’ve deleted on hinge too much for the last 5 years so I want to try something different.
Would love to hear any ideas or suggestions/thoughts.
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There might be newer ones I’m unaware of, but Hinge is probably the best if you are looking to find a long-term relationship and not just have casual sex.
I’m sure speed dating events and matchmaking would be a great method of finding potential partners, especially if you live in a larger city.
Your only other option is to meet people organically by striking up conversations in person. This can be done most anywhere (don’t do this at a gym lol), so long as you have the social skills. I would recommend taking up a hobby you enjoy, where other people will also partake in. Easy place to make friends, as the ice is pretty much broken. Consider also making platonic friends. Finding a partner via friends is the classic way.
Just remember that you are doing what u feel I’m ur heart and that joking up should having deeper than that compared typical anxiety
Go to events that interest you like concerts, art galleries, stores, restaurants, conventions. Talk to some people there and shoot your shot a lot.