I (35f) have been dating my boyfriend (47m) for 4 months and we are very much in love. I really want this to be it but I have a few concerns that I need help rationalising whether he is worth it.

1. His passion is acting and although he has had a few roles in short movies, this hasn’t really taken off for him yet.
2. He doesn’t have much in savings.
3. His day job is in customer service for a company in his home town (Europe), though he works for them remotely from the uk. He is willing to find a new job in the uk so he can pay taxes here. He has settled status visa.
4. I work for a big company and I am looking to buy my first home soon. I was originally going to buy with my ex so obviously only have half of the deposit now so expectations have massively reduced (buying in London uk as well).
5. My Asian parents don’t like him but I think he is worth it. They have not spoken to me in 3 months because of him. They have never met him and are judging him based on his age, race and “lack of stability”
6. My plan is to get married and have children within the next few years.
7. He is the most gorgeous man I’ve ever been with (he is also a model) and he has the most caring and generous spirit.

Please help.

2 comments
  1. Sorry to say but he doesn’t seem worth it. I truly understand where you are coming from and your dilemmas but After 30s..most ppl want to have their lives put together.. have a decent career, own a house, grow family. Seems like that’s what you want too. No matter how handsome he is, he’s not got his act together to match your wants from life. Unfortunately, as time passes, he’s going to be more and more dependent on you or will be taking you for granted to pursue his dreams… in other words he doesn’t seem to match your energy. I have full empathy for the man ..its just you guys don’t seem to match so I would recommend breaking this up. I hate to suggest this but its my honest opinion.

  2. >My plan is to get married and have children within the next few years.

    Does he know about this, and also share in this dream?

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