Girlfriend doesn’t give blowjobs

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1. her requirements matter too. find someone that suits yours

2. You mean she hasn’t given YOU a bj in months… jkjk openly discuss what she doesnt like and dont do it.. work together:)

3. Communicate.

   She isn’t your ex she is going to have different preferences. Just like you are going to have different preferences than her ex.

   So ask her: What can I do to make BJs more comfortable for you?

   This may include: Not grabbing her head (I personally hate this. I will stop mid session if a guy does this). Getting flavored lube. Finding a better position or place for her to be more comfortable.

   Regardless you shouldn’t push or pressure her into it. Regardless of if it’s a requirement for you that doesn’t make it right to pressure her into it (to include saying that if she doesn’t do it you will leave). If she says no its no. You can leave and find someone more compatible but it isn’t ok to use this to manipulate her into giving you more

4. Just because your ex’s didn’t have an issue doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have one, talk to her and find out what’s causing the choking issue and then work on sorting it out.

   Your “requirements” don’t trump her comfortability.

5. She can decide to do or not do that for whatever reason she wants or for no reason at all. You can decide to continue or not continue the relationship for this or any other reason you want. It really is that simple, there’s no convincing or tricks or anything like that that you can try and even if there were that would be coercion.

6. If that is how you feel and how she feels, allow her to do all the work. You should lay back and let her do it. Be more considerate. You shouldn’t be thrusting or moving while she does it.

7. If it’s a requirement than you have to get rid of the girl. Sorry to put it so bluntly but that is what you have to do. She already gave you her answer. I’ve gotten rid of these girls before. Don’t be sexually miserable out of guilt.

8. My girlfriend doesn’t because it hurts her jaw and she has a major gag reflex. I respect that and I still take care of her orally

9. what your gf enjoys or does not enjoy has nothing to do with your previous gfs. If she says you make her choke too much you are OBVIOUSLY a being too aggressive, or pushing her head down, or shoving your dick in too far. Most importantly you are not paying attention to HER. Your post comes across very selfishly, and with all due respect it’s pretty stupid to ask a bunch of strangers on Reddit when you could just talk to her—your gf. If you care at all about her as a human being and not a mouth to shI’ve your dick in, you ASK her if or how there’s a way that’d make it ok for her. You tell her you really enjoy blow jobs, but that you care about her and her comfort. There may be a certain position that makes it easier. She may want you to promise not to touch or push her head AT ALL. She may want you to hold still and not shove your dick in her mouth. She may just not want to do it anyway.Notably, you did not say one word about what, if anything, you do for her pleasure. Do you go down on her? Do you bring her to orgasm?

10. You should’ve just put this in AITA.
    YTA

    and…OPs account was created today, for the purpose of posting this. Dick move. Fake post.

11. The first thing I will say is do not compare your current GF to the Ex. Not only does that make you blind to how she is a person but is also disrespectful. Everyone is different. Some girls like giving blowjobs and some don’t.

    >Oral is a requirement for me.

    If this is TRULY a requirement for you and she does not want to do it. Go find a new partner. It is not fair to you or her.

12. Your force of something she can’t do and doesn’t like is an asshole move and the problem. So make her feel better. Let her put on a strap on, you get on your knees and allow her to reenact exactly what you do so you can see her side. You don’t have to do anything. Just let her grab your head. It’ll be fine. Plenty of men do it.

13. Yeah OP, my first bf was also an entitled ass who used to use manipulation to get me to give him bj’s, then he would force my head down/thrust into my throat. Ruined the entire act of sex for me for over a decade. I’m 36 years old now and am just now enjoying sex for the first time in my life.

    Do her a favor and break up with her. Break contact. You are violating her consent and she continues to try and put up boundaries which you completely ignore. Your need for your orgasm the way you want it might cause her years of psychological damage. Please remove yourself from her life. Her body is also attached to a very real human being with emotions, preferences, and feelings. You want a toy- get a fleshlight.

14. I had a boyfriend years ago that would try and push down on my head. I hate choking, so I slapped his hands away and told him to never do that again. Well ofc he didn’t listen and did it again so yeah, he never received another blowie after that. Or if he did, it was the most lackluster, unenthusiastic bj ever.

15. “She said it’s because I make her choke too much but I don’t think I have? I haven’t done anything”

    Based on that comment you sound like a childish jerk, that might be complicating things as well.

16. The amount of hate this guy is getting is just incredible. And if it was a girl with the same exact problem, everyone would support her. What a fucked up society we live in.