I (25f) have been seeing a guy (25m) for a few weeks however I have noticed he experiences self doubt and I have found myself having to reassure him a few times already. So far he has a number of great qualities, we’re in similar life stages, both career driven, he’s smart, sociable, very kind and caring and I am very physically attracted to him as well. However he keeps doubting my attraction to him and has said things like “I was surprised you were even attracted to me” and “I bet there are so many guys in your Insta dms” and other comments that imply that I could date someone better than him, and put himself down. I want him to be confident in himself because he is attractive. Is this a red flag or something that can be overcome? Men: is there anything I can do to ease this insecurity? How do I ask him to work on this insecurity, (and support that growth) without making him feel less than?
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Do you compliment him?
Have you considered dating a narcissist instead? They have high self opinions. But are horrible.
Maybe say some nice things to him?
Make him confident.
Guys love compliments believe it or not!!!
Way back when I worked retail a women complimented on how nice my beard looked, I have never shaved it since 😂😂
Ask him if he’s fishing for compliments every time he does it.