Me and my gf have been together for a year, I don’t usually bother her with all that romantic talk but sometimes I like to address a few things like when I wake up one day I like to tell her that hugging her in bed and giving a peck on the cheek in the morning would feel so nice, but she ignored that text and just replied good morning, everything is fine between us but the moment she does this I get doubts that I might be overdoing it, but then i self assess and I find that I’m not overdoing it, I do it in healthy amount without making her feel smothered by it , should I discuss this with her, it’s not like she doesn’t love me, sometimes she also texts me these random texts but I never make her feel that what she said went to waste, I reply like ‘yeah I’m missing you too’ or ‘wish you were here rn’.
I feel like she says these things when she feels like it, and when I say it she doesn’t care much, and I idk if it’s true.
Ik it’s a small thing we shouldn’t sweat the small stuff in a relationship, but I just need another perspective on it.
Please do share!
Thank you<3
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Discuss for sure.
Relationships aren’t a game. Don’t try so hard to figure it out on your own when you can simply ask if she likes receiving those sorts of messages.
And if you find out she doesn’t like receiving those messages I don’t think you should extrapolate anything from it. If she doesn’t like it, so what? Not a big deal. Doesn’t have to mean anything more.
hi, I think sometimes these things happen in a relationship and make you second-guess yourself and the relationship. But as long as you trust her and her love for her it’s all good.
Discuss but I think you are over thinking.
Texting is a double-edged sword…a fun and convenient way to stay in touch, but easily prone to misinterpretation. Don’t read to much into how or when someone responds
Be less predictable. It loses value when you’re always hitting the same note.
As someone else pointed out, I think texting very much lends itself to misinterpretation, almost regardless of one’s level of insecurity and/or anxiety. Therefore, I think there is a solid chance that you might be overthinking this, and everything is in fact fine – especially if every other aspect of the relationship seems to be fine. However, I think it’s understandable to feel the way you feel, and you should bring it up to her. Just make sure you do so in a polite, respectful, and calm manner (as I’m sure you will!).