MIL thinks she doesn’t see grandkids so she constantly guilts DH into visits.

She sees them 3-4 times a month. We unfortunately live less than 15 min from her.

She tries to guilt my DH into seeing the kids at least a couple of times a week. She is a lonely old thrice-divorced woman who has nothing better to do than hang out with her married adult children.

We just saw her last Saturday at a party and we decided to take a break from her for a while since she berates him and is passive aggressive. She yells at people in front of my kids and puts DH down in front of them. Miss Negativity Doom and Gloom.

She asked DH three times last week to see the kids. Oh wait no, she asked once. The other two times were “maybe I could come over” followed by “I feel like I don’t know *older child*.” She also has decided the oldest is her “special girl” so she is already playing favorites.

She is a control freak who has no concept of boundaries and I am confident if she weren’t afraid of me, she would try to see us almost daily like she does her married daughter.

I just feel so much anger toward her after everything she has done over the years that little things like these really send me reeling.

And then on top of it, my DH complains about her constantly, talks about how insane she is, and yet still wants to spend time with her. They went out for breakfast together last week (I just found out) despite him telling me explicitly he needs a break from her.

I just wanted to rant. I feel frustrated by this on a regular basis, he knows I feel frustrated and absolutely nothing changes. I don’t know what I am supposed to do anymore. I know he is more so the problem here than she is.