Looking for any advice people might have- I (35f) and my new bf (34m) are relatively new, and he expressed a desire in me pegging him. I’ve never done it but I’m certainly up for it, does anyone have tips other than “communicate a bunch and use more lube than you think you need?” I’d love to have a little bit of a handle on what I’m doing to stave off any insecurity on his end (as much as I can).
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Most of everything is actually on him. He needs to prep/clean. He needs to stretch himself to a size that accomodates whatever toy you are using.
You need to enjoy learning how to “give” vs “receive” and treat him the same as if he were giving you anal:
Get him excited/hard.
Bring in playing with his ass with spit and lube.
Work up to having two fingers in him and keep lubed.
Easiest position is probably him bent over the bed and you from behind.
Check out Ruby Ryder’s online seminars. Really informative and covered everything I’d been wondering about and more, also she gave us the chance to ask questions at the end.
It’s still pending on my to-do list, but I feel calm and prepared.
Don’t buy a cheap harness, that is the most important part of the equipment that can make the difference between an amazing pegging and a frustrating one.