Whats your opinion with having a housewife?

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1. I think it’s less common, mostly because it’s less viable

   The cost of living has gone up, so most families need two breadwinners, not just one

2. It’s an old-fashioned way of thinking. If it’s cheaper to have her stay home than have the kids go to daycare, it’s understandable. If both her and her SO are fine with it, that’s their business, not mine. If I could make enough money to provide for myself and my SO without her having to work, I’d love to be able to do that for her, but that’s hard to imagine with how shit wages are and how expensive everything is.

3. Some people I understand really want it or will only go for that, but its a hard deal breaker for me to be with someone who isn’t working. Hard times will come, she might get laid off, or take a long break to help with kids, but forever? Couldn’t do it. Maybe if the economy did a total 180 and wages caught up with inflation or something.

4. I’d rather have her work so we have more money. My wife also has ambitions and interest in her career. She’s be less interesting to be around without that.

5. And miss out on prime DINK status? No thanks. I want us to earn lots of money and travel the world having epic adventures.

6. Now it’s more common for both people to work. I get it, times are hard and stuff is expensive. But if we were ok financially I would be totally fine with her staying at home. Like sure, she might be working and bringing in more money, but what are we losing? Do we spend as much time together as we should? If we had kids are they being taken to daycare now? I’m all for it if she wanted to be a home maker, I know it’s alot of work just like a paying job.

7. I’m cool with it esp with someone that’s crafty

   E will take female that’s physically fit and into being self sustainable.

8. I’m on the fence. I heard that SAHM are some of the highest professions that file for divorce and I don’t know if I want my wife to sit at home thinking about how she is in the house all day. But at the same time, I hate cleaning and wouldn’t mind working more to bring in money to clean less.

9. Wouldn’t be opposed but one income isn’t much to live on anymore and women I would be willing to take that risk with are few.

10. To me, it depends very much on your SO’s perspective and preferences. As a man, there are lots of tasks around the home that I like doing, like cooking and cleaning, as part of taking ownership and responsibility for my space and life. I do understand though that many cultures also have a trend of children living at home until they get married. Generally, I prefer a division of labour based on availability, not gender or sex. If you have time to get some chores done, do them because they need doing, not because you’re the stay at home whatever.

    I think that having an SO that is employed outside the home will also make your homelife more intellectually stimulating because you’ll have more to discuss, compare notes on, etc. I want an intellectual partner too, not just domestic.

11. I do not care either way. Personally, I don’t see why people find it demeaning. If I had a spouse that was making as much as needed for a family with only one income, I’d immediately become a house husband myself.

12. Not that I’d mind, but I’d rather have a wife who has her own aspirations and dreams. Not someone who goes stir crazy sitting home all day. My wife now has her own career and dreams.

13. It’s more of a financial thing than a cultural thing tbh. If one party wants the other to work to help provide more financial stability then that seems justified. Just having the house clean and dinner ready doesn’t help much if the bills are barely paid and one party is always stressed about making money.

14. I couldn’t afford someone that doesn’t financially contribute.

15. In a close to ideal situation, one person would work and earn income, and the other would run the household (gender of the who doesn’t matter). Cooking, laundry, children….that is a job in itself.

    The problem is to live now, two incomes are almost required.

16. I feel very guilty of that. I would never want my wife to be a housewife unless that’s what she wants to do. Everyone (including mothers of small kids ) deserve to create their own life rather than serving her family 100% of the time.

    I would hate to be one if I was a woman.

    Glad to see you are curious about other cultures and points of view

17. Hard pass.

    I’m not against the concept and more power to you if your dynamic works for you.

    I do have a type and it’s always included active career people.

18. I wouldn’t want my wife to be a housewife, cause it’d stress her out and she enjoys having a career. Though we’re both cool with me being a househusband once we’ve attained the means to do so. I already enjoy cooking and cleaning, and if I could do that without doing my job as well then all the better.

19. It’s about the person not their job, I’m not interested in kids but I don’t care if my partner wants to stay at home if we can afford it.
    They have to be doing something productive but it doesn’t have to be a job.
    Maybe they are doing study, or starting a business or they volunteer at a not for profit etc.

    Once life is stable I want to work as little as possible, if I can help them do that early then I am all for it.

20. I’ve always felt that having a job is a good way to ground a person mentally. If you stay at home all the time, it limits your world view and your primary point of communication is only one or two people. At work, you can share your thoughts and opinions with people, and have their opinions and perspectives shared back to you, giving a broader, more balanced perspective.

    Also, financial independence is liberating.

21. If she wants to be. But I think it effects her negatively to be honest. You don’t get as much social interaction and you will likely feel as if you have no purpose

22. A stay at home housewife is a luxury most people cannot afford anymore.

23. I don’t want my woman to have to work. But if she wants to, I’m cool with it.

24. It’s entirely reasonable and understandable for a woman to not _want to be_ a housewife. You’re not making money directly and any impact to the money you have (job performance, etc) is entirely out of your control, you have a large gap in your resume so it’s harder to either start or get back to making money should you need to, and there has never been a moment in history where if the man in question either left or put you in a position where you had to leave you would not be utterly fucked economically.

    But if she does? As a man, having someone take care of the house stuff so all you have to do is take care of work stuff sounds fantastic.

25. I want her to have ambition, income and a social life that doesn’t directly involve me.

    Not a fan of a partner who is overly dependant on me, so a house wife is something I do not want.

    Bonus, the less she works the more you owe her if there is a divorce.

26. As others said my wifes potential would be wasted. I wouldn’t want her to work 5 days a week from 9 to 5 but she’s so smart it would be a shame to have her sit at home all day.

27. My GF is one. We’re not married, we don’t have kids. But I earn enough for the both of us.

    It’s great, the house is always clean, the food is always there when I need it. I don’t have to worry about any admit stuff.
    I take care of our income she takes care of us.
    I can fully focus on my job without having to worry about going to buy food, or running out of things around the house. She can dedicate her time to making sure the household runs smoothly.

    We both appreciate each other for what we bring, she doesn’t treat me as a wallet and I don’t treat her as a maid.