Ghosted & Exhausted

Hi dating,

I (33m) was talking to this girl (33F) on hinge pretty much non stop for a week, We both put a lot of effort and energy in to our conversation, often staying up late at night, and the communication felt free and fun. And we both agreed we were so lucky to have found people who get along a well as we do.

We had agreed to meet up someetime in the future but she tried to bring it forward a few times, even invited me to accompany her on some errands and had told her friends about me. In the end I agreed to bring the date forward

We finally met up and, although she didn’t 100% look like her pictures (which is normal) she was still a really fun person and we still got a long. I was surprised to hear she was only looking for casual given the emotional availability and intensity she had displayed leading up to the date. Anyway the date ended the next day and we agreed we would see each-other again.

We messaged again briefly the next day, with us both expressing a desire to still talk how we did and still hang out and again how glad we were we found each-other I’ve tried to keep up the same level as before and messaged her a few times but I have since had no response For about 2 days. (Which usually wouldn’t matter but from messaging constantly to 2 days radio silence is of course a sign)

I’m really confused while I have no relationship to this person and they don’t owe me an explanation. I don’t know how someone can message and talk with such intensity with another and then just abandon things it has left me feeling really empty and confused.

Im no stranger to the dating game, and people go quiet but I’m finding this really hard to take and feeling very exhausted and like all that effort and energy was a waste.

So looking for some support 🙁 as it looks like I won’t get any answers from her.