Towards the end of my school year, a friend group formed between me, some of the people I get along with in my grade, and some girls from another high school.
I went away to work for a couple weeks and during that time, everyone organised multiple hangouts and adventures, in a groupchat I was part of. The day I get back, nothing, not a peep. I wait a couple days. Nothing. I ask if anyone wants to hangout soon. One person says their unavailable, nothing from the other 10-12 people. (They all read the text).
On a public story and on snap maps, I can see them all hanging out every couple of days. I get along with everyone, but when I ask anything about the group, immediate non committal responses and loads of “yeah, that’s crazy, I don’t know though” kinda stuff.
I’m just baffled, just genuinely confused as to what I did.
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I can’t imagine that any of these people were really that great of friends to begin with. Fun? Sure, but not really friends.
In the time you spent away, they grew closer to each other and might’ve split into smaller circles. This is probably why they’re so distant and uninterested now, but by no means does that mean that you “did something wrong”. This is the problem with large friend groups, it takes 10x the amount of work to maintain these connections because you’re having to stay part of the group instead of forming meaningful, one-on-one relationships.
They probably don’t hate you, they just don’t care. Make new friends and start small. Large friend groups are a trap, especially in highschool and college. In fact, you’ll feel better having no friends instead of being surrounded by people who don’t value your presence.