Dating is really tough for me and almost a trigger of mine so ive avoided it for while but I want to try to put myself out there
I think where I went wrong in the past is I never officially told the person I was dating I struggle mentally… I just let them find out themselves
Of course none of those relationships lasted
I want to try to really curate my matches as best as possible so do I put this in my bio or something? Maybe make a cute joke of it?
Or is this a conversation you have in person and if so, how? Just randomly bring it up? Make it a big thing and sit them down for a talk to explain it? I have no clue
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Honestly probably within the first date. Depending on how you function if it’s really bad you may need to just put it in your profile.
Borderline what?
It’s definitely better to be upfront about it. I’m currently together with a borderline myself. I’m 38, and she’s 32. Sometimes, we fight, and sometimes, things are awesome. After taking the time to understand what bpd is, I try to be patient, understanding, and always there for her. Although I’m not entirely sure things will work out or not, we both try to work together through our mental challenges (i’m adhd and embarrassingly avpd too). Things would have gotten painfully messy, and I would have gotten rid of her long ago if she never told me. It’s important to honestly disclose such a condition to someone you trust and see a future with and to always work on it, too! 🙃
Does BPD and “clinical” depression go together?