Men what the best advice you received from, or role model behavior you saw in your Mother? How did it help you? Did your recognize it at the time, or realize later?

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  2. Didn’t realise it at the time, but just the fact that it was normal that she was the breadwinner in our family. It gave me a healthy (I hope) outlook towards women and women being able to do anything.

  3. Grandmother in my case. I was a whiny spoiled kid. My grandma was the kindest woman. One time I started crying about some stupid thing and she, instead of immediately giving in like my mom would, started making fun of me for being a wuss. The dissonance of a person I knew to be very kind and empathetic at the same time seeing through my manipulative BS was a cold shower I needed. I started seeing myself in a completely different light – it was like a switch flipped in my head. I am grateful to her to this day and only wish it happened earlier in my childhood.

  4. I didn’t see a role model in my mother. She is a pushover/people pleasure. She can’t voice her opinions without retracting it at the first sign of disagreement. Worked full time still came home to cook and clean the home. It really stood out to me after I moved out.

  5. My mom gave me some seriously great advice one time:

    “If a women you’re with is crying and you don’t know why, don’t ask her why and don’t try talking to her about it. Just shut up and hold her.”

    My mom also gave me a lot of shitty advice, but this one was a gem.

  6. My mom is one of the kindest people on the planet. She’s a southern Christian, but in a good way. We were raised to “be sweet”.

    She and my father were equal partners in the family business, and she worked just as hard as him.

    She’s in her 80’s now and not exactly on top of modern issues. When I told her my oldest child came out as transgender, she didn’t quite understand why or how or even what it meant. After a conversation she thought for a moment and said “I don’t get it, but she’s a child of god and she deserves our love.” Which might be the most truly Christian thing I’ve ever heard.

  7. She taught me all about double standards whilst not believing that they could exist anymore

  8. my own mother was the first person to tell me “don’t stick your dick in crazy”

  9. Drove a motorcycle. She said if you get in an accident and you can’t feel your legs, roll yourself under a truck because I won’t take care of you.

    First experience with the dangers of moral hazards. Cool.

  11. I realized I learned what to avoid in a spouse. Which, that’s a useful thing to pick up because people will go for what’s “normal” to them. That “normal” is all the little things they don’t even realize they’re picking up from the adults in their life every single day they’re growing up. Course, it did take moving out to see that! Some people never pick this lesson up.

  12. After my father left us, she really stepped up and put in all the work to keep us going. She was a nearly helpless SAH mom at the time, couldn’t pump her own gas. But she got an entry level job and went to college, got a small house for us and stayed grinding for years to get us to 18 and into college.

    I don’t agree with the “do whatever you’re told” mentality to her work mentality, but I have all the respect there is for how are tackled this incredible blow.

  13. She parroted down a bunch of basic bitch general advice across my childhood

    Something in there I reckon.

    Same as pop

  15. Mostly inherited all her anxiety

    Sounds like a bad things, but the abundance of caution has saved my hide enough times to justify itself sticking around

  16. My mom always was very quick, organized, and a hard worker. She would always get things done early and she is very much a minimalist (she doesn’t like a lot of clutter). I think I’ve picked up some of these traits from her even if they are slight. She’s helped me to be less of a procrastinator in my life.

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