I’ve only recently started having penetrative sex and have so far had sex 2 times in 3 different positions. I cannot feel anything. At first it hurts, like the vagina is cramping and then it gradually relaxes as the penis moves further in. But when the guy starts moving his hips, going in and out, it doesn’t hurt anymore but I also cannot feel anything. I feel him moving but NOTHING inside, like I am completely numb. You know like when the dentist puts anaesthesia, you feel him moving his tools about your mouth but are unsure what is going on. I also do not enjoy getting fongered, it mainly makes me uncomfortable, like someone is sticking a finger up my nose, except it’s my vagina.
Will sensation come after a few times since maybe I’m just getting used to it and the vagina is in shock? Or should I seek medical help?
Would appreciate if vagina pwners shared their experience of beginning to be sexually active. Also, does foreplay make any difference to sensation? Like if you are very turned on and have had loads of foreplay, does that alter sensation?
Edit: the penis is big, clearly not the problem.
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When I first started, I do remember it being numb and almost like I was in shock. I also didn’t like being fingered as well. It’s likely due to not having experience and whatever techniques your partner is using. It should get better with time.
Look up CAT technique. It stimulates the clitoris while allowing him penetration (I’m assuming your clit is your hot spot).
Basically, what you’re experiencing is common in women vs men:
Men like thrusting forward, in and out. They like their glans running into things. Its the center of stimulation. They think more in and out, harder, deeper is the bees knees for sex, especially for their girl.
Women like grinding and other things that touch, rub or impact the clit and g-spot. In and out is ok, pleasant, but not in and of itself the main course. More like a roll on the side. But more so, women need foreplay. Fucking foreplay before penetration. Fucking foreplay during penetration.
Getting on top, in cowgirl, can help you control that, while still having him inside you.
Find a way y’all to get both, either at separate moments in the session, or like CAT method, at the same time.