If someone/a group starts or has already started a conversation, I can easily contribute and crack jokes to keep that conversation going till the end of time.
When I start a conversation myself, it almost always starts with asking the other person about a topic, or how their weekend went, etc. I cannot think of an instance where the conversation started with a topic where I contributed a thought first.
This question I am asking here has had basically 0 effect on my relationships, nor do people actually notice this habit of mine. I am just asking out of curiosity since this habit could be fixable or it could mean something else.
As I’m writing this and looking at that Post button, this whole question seems pretty stupid (feel free to agree with me on this) but I really want to sometimes take some initiative in conversation, or at least feel like I do.
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“When I start a conversation myself, it almost always starts with asking the other person about a topic, or how their weekend went, etc. I cannot think of an instance where the conversation started with a topic where I contributed a thought first.”
That’s exactly how you start off a conversation.
A dear friend told me the same, that she couldn’t get a conversation going for the life of her. I told her that is very simple and remained quiet for a minute or two while fumbling with the playlist we were listening while driveling. Out of nowhere and as we drove through several farms with cornfields on them I popped and asked “Do you think all these corn here is for eating or for Ethanol?…or maybe the ones people buy during the fall/harvest season.” We talked about corn, butterflies, gas prices, cars and a few other things for the better time of 45 minutes which at a quiet moment I said to her “that is how you start and keep conversations”.
I can make any introvert have a conversation, they might be drained afterwards. I can even talk about politics and religion without pissing anyone off.