Is finding friends and romantic relationships a matter of trial and error?

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1. Don’t know man. Seems like it is chance for me.

2. Yes, you won’t connect with everyone on that level. So it’s largely trial and error, meeting and developing relationships with people and seeing which ones build and which ones don’t.

3. Yes, it’s entirely trial and error. Not everyone will want to be friends with you, and not everyone will make a good friend. Same with romance.

4. To a certain extent, but there are things you can do to greatly increase your odds of connecting. (And there’s no need to connect with everyone!) Here’s an article I wrote that can help:

   ###[Do YOU Have Good Friendship Traits?](https://www.reddit.com/r/CPRForYourSocialLife/comments/13jp5gv/pick_me_do_you_have_good_friendship_traits/)

5. It’s all about trial and error. That’s why you’re supposed to cast a very wide net. You won’t click with a majority of people. But you’ll be happy when you find someone you do click with. And if you’re focused on romantic partners, don’t be. Focus on friends and the romantic connections will come.

6. When I meet someone new, I know if we’re going to be good friends or not in 30 minutes max. I just click with some people. This doesnt happen a lot but hey, you just cant force a friendship.

7. >If I try a lot will I eventually find someone I like that likes me back?

   You might, you might not. Nobody knows, and if anyone says they do, they’re lying. People like to believe that it happens for almost everyone, but sometimes for some people it doesn’t, and that’s ok.

   >Or at least increase my chances.

   Anyone can. That includes mostly meeting a lot of people and self-improvement. No guarantees, though.

8. Matt is cheap trash who attacks unprovoked.. I did nothing wrong at my party