I (26F) need some advice regarding my relationship with my bf (26M). We’ve been together 8 years and while we’ve had our ups and downs, our relationship is very important to me and he has been my main support system from the beginning. I want some advice on how to be supportive of him right now. He recently got laid off by his full time job as a copywriter. He never liked this job anyway but now I feel like he can’t figure out what to do with his life. He has a bachelors degree in the arts (which he really regrets getting) and doesn’t have a lot of job prospects with his current degree. He doesn’t want to work another marketing job, but is also hesitant to go back to school as it’s a large investment and he’s unsure if he’ll get a better job in return. He’s considered going back for teaching, maybe a trade like electrician, or even law school. He’ll be really excited about one of these options one day, but then the next he’ll convince himself out of it and become really down on himself. He’s a really intelligent guy but has struggled in school in the past due to ADHD. He also does part-time sports coaching which is his main source of income right now which he enjoys but doesn’t see himself doing full-time.
I’m writing this because I’m really not sure how to support him. I really just want him to be happy with his life. Money is obviously somewhat of a concern in today’s economy but I’m finishing up my last year of professional school and will be making a good salary starting next year. I mostly just want him to find something that is fulfilling but I worry that he is so indecisive that he won’t find anything that he’ll truly enjoy.
I’ve been trying to get him to see a therapist over the past few months and just recently convinced him to set up an appt. He’s convinced they won’t be able to help him but I’m not sure what more I can do at this point either. How do I proceed? Any advice is appreciated.