24(M) A good looking guy who has a good career and old head on my shoulders, respectful and caring, I generally get a lot of looks and double takes from women when out and about. For my entire adult life I have alwaysed use a ‘Rating Scale’ to quantify someone’s looks as to whether or not I find someone attractive and if I would maybe like to date them.
This is a terrible way to look at things, I have always thought , ‘ I only want to date women who are an 8 or above, anyone else im just not interested, besides this being a terrible way to approach dating, its incredibly subjective. Someone who I may perceive to be an 8, other may not. Even if they are an 8, what if they have a terrible personality I just cant stand?
My new way of looking at dating is just simply, 1 or 0. (1) I would be interested, (0) I would not. Its much simpler and makes everything more casual. For example, there are some women at my gym who I see every week who always make eye contact with me constantly, I generally do the same back but always think ‘ Meh she’s a 6 or she’s a 7, Instead I should be thinking ‘Would I be interested to date her, yes or no’ Then proceed to start a casual conversation and see where things lead.
The moral or the story is to not quantify people into numbers, simply do you find someone attractive Yes or No, this makes it much simpler, friendlier and easier for everyone involved.
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In person is better than online and yes if you notice anything that catches attention you like focus on that positive quality. People like compliments and kind gestures. They remember them. It’s a good way to introduce to be kind