To make a long story short, I didn’t have my first orgasm until I was 25. I was very sexual experience with many partners, including long-term ones, but nobody was able to make me orgasm and I wasn’t able to do it myself. Finally one guy was able to with a combination of oral and fingering. (Technical skills unmatched). After that my orgasm capability was open, and I was able to orgasm during sex and alone as long as a vibrator on my clit was used. However I’m hoping there’s a way to “learn” to do it with just fingers. It’s crazy to me that people can come based on just rubbing their clit or whatever. Any success stories or advice??
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I also struggled with not being able to orgasm until I started using a vibrator. If I’m going at it solo and not using a vibrator, I like to play with my clit through my panties. I think adds more friction? Idk
You just have to retrain yourself. Vibrators make orgasms quick, efficient, and fun…that’s why we use them. I never cum with my fingers anymore because it doesn’t feel as good to me. But if a guy is rubbing my clit, I get more aroused.
Genital sensitivity goes up when you’re on weed. I’ve found that some gains I make while on weed stay with me when sober. It’s worth a try
You can learn the more you do it the easier it gets. Eventually you want to get to the point where you orgasm without clit stimulation.
I honestly don’t like using my fingers much because I have small hands and my arms aren’t very long so I had to learn the quickest and easiest way I could reach an orgasm.
I use my index and middle fingers and rolled them down. My palm is touching on my clit but I control my hand to touch it lightly, not too much pressure because I want my orgasm to be vaginal only. I tuck my fingers into my vaginal wall almost as if I was pulling out or carrying part of it with my fingers. I also push my fingers in and just grind them rather than pull them out or move them in circles. I find the spot that feels the best and concentrate and grind it there. I’ve squirted by doing that. But also, I was SUPER SUPER aroused.