So at times, or very often I should say I struggle with putting my thoughts into words, to the point where I’m so self conscious of it, I rather stay quiet and avoid conversation all together.
Like in my head I know what I want to say but when I talk sometimes I start to mumble or stutter and I get embarrassed.
Is there any fix to this? Is this some type of disorder?
Ugh I hate it … I can express myself so much better through text but I want to be able to talk normal
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It sounds like you just need practice. Talk. A lot.
Another suggestion is to journal. And try to be fast – don’t think endlessly before writing.
Talk or journal with LOTS of practice. Ideally, do both.
I have the same issue. I’m now 36 and have just fumbles my way through life. I journal which helps but I find it very hard to form new relationships face to face. When I’m talking to poeple I either can’t think of what to say or if I do I can’t communicate it the way I want to. As I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten more convinced that I may be on the spectrum. Social norms don’t seem to come naturally. I feel like I don’t know how to communicate in person but through text or email I can perfectly convey what I want to say. What I will say is it has gotten easier as I’ve gotten older as i’ve had practice so it’s like an auto pilot, I can do enough to not stand out eg small talk etc but anything more and I just can’t seem to get it right
I have a similar issue. As unsatisfying as it may be to hear, what has helped me the most has been to simply practice. Get yourself in situations where you’re having as many extemporaneous conversations as you can with as many different people as possible. Stop judging how you do in each individual conversation (poor conversations are always bound to happen) and instead focus on the progress you’re making over longer periods of time (ie. Every week or every month).
If you’re not in therapy already that can be helpful as well. If nothing else, the conversations you have with a therapist are a good opportunity to practice as well. But chances are the therapist will also have useful feedback to offer you that will help you improve your conversational skills.