I (28m) have been with my girlfriend (33f) for about 3 months, we’ve been having sex for the past 2 months. She is extremely petite, including where our parts fit together. I think she just didn’t say anything at first, but has gotten comfortable enough to tell me that when we are doing positions like missionary or doggy, if I go all the way in it’s uncomfortable for her. So, since she told me this, we’ve only been doing stuff with her on top where she has more control over how deep we’re going. I’m wondering if there are any alternative solutions or positions that would allow me to go deeper while keeping it pleasurable for her? I did look at the dyspareunia FAQ page, I will suggest we try some lube as a first step.
Also, I don’t know if this is related, but it seems extremely difficult for her to orgasm. I honestly don’t think she has with me yet, although I frequently ask (during and between sessions) what I can do to help her with that. I’ve tried longer foreplay (20-30min) including oral and digital stimulation, stimulating her nipples (which is extremely pleasurable for her), and longer periods of penetration before I cum, but nothing seems to do it. She gives every indication that she’s having a great time, but no orgasm.
Any/all advice appreciated, thanks.
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In terms of her orgasm, how does she get off solo? Most likely with a vibe. I’d suggest encouraging her to use a vibe during PIV.
I think you’re on the right track with lube, and foreplay. There’s a device called the Oh-Nut that is a cushion you can put at the base of your penis to meter how much length goes in. That might allow you to go full force in positions but not hit nearly as deep.
As far as orgasm goes, go down on her. Perform oral until she cums. Once she cums she goes on top the way she likes it. Thank me later.