Many strangers think my friend (28M) and I (28F) are a couple. He corrects them, saying we’re only friends. What gives? Since they’re strangers, I don’t see the need in correcting them.
We hooked up once about two years ago and have both been in relationships since then. We both find ourselves single again for several months and things have been purely platonic. We see each other maybe once a month and text sporadically throughout the week.
TL;DR Why does good friend, I once hooked up with years ago, feel the need to tell strangers we’re just friends?
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Because you are just friends. I am curious why it bothers you?
Because you are just friends? Like if I’m hanging out with my brother and someone assumes we’re a couple we immediately correct them, of course. It’s a major and weird assumption to make just because two people of the opposite sex are together so it makes sense to set the record straight.
Sounds like maybe the real question is why you want people to think you’re a couple?
This is normal to do. Unless he’s like, AGRESSIVELY overcorrecting in an insulting way “oh God no I’d never be more than friends with sassypenguin YUCK”, you need to just smile and nod.
People assume I’m my childhood best friend’s sister because we have a bunch of similar mannerisms. Both of us correct people because we are nerds who like to have the facts straight. Soul sisters yes, bio sisters nah.
I see no reason to read into this behaviour.
Sounds like you like him as more than a friend and are holding out hope he’ll feel the same.
It’s normal behavior to correct people if they mistakenly believe you and a friend are a couple. Unless he’s acting appalled at the idea it’s weird that you insulted but it.
Because you are? Why would he tell them otherwise?
Because you **are** just friends. Why do you want strangers to think you are in a relationship with him?
Why wouldn’t he? One of those strangers could potentially be his next significant other. You’re not dating. Simple as that.
Because he doesn’t want to be mistaken for being in a relationship. He’s single right now and probably looking for dates. He doesn’t want to give off the vibe that he’s taken when he’s trying to meet single women.
>He corrects them, saying we’re only friends. What gives? Since they’re strangers, I don’t see the need in correcting them.
Maybe he’s looking for potential dates, and doesn’t want people to think he’s already seeing someone.
>Why does good friend, I once hooked up with years ago, feel the need to tell strangers we’re just friends?
Because it’s true.