so, i’m gonna try to make this short but it’s kind of a long story. name has been changed of course.
i, 19f and jim, 19m have been talking on and off for well over a year.
everytime we’re talking it’s really good, it always goes well, we never end on bad terms, and we somehow always find a way back to eachother. keep in mind that when we are talking, it lasts for 2-3 months before we end, usually due to my mental health or some big life changes, as i don’t do well with change, so i block people out, including my best friends.
he never takes it personal. he knows me so well. he has met my whole family, went to my grad party that lasted 3+ hours (and stayed the entirety of it) as well as going to my high school graduation (i went to a very large high school so my graduating class had 900+ kids, and i was in the beginning but we weren’t allowed to leave until the ceremony was over.)
i really like him, don’t get me wrong. i’ve worked really hard on my mental health since the last time we talked, gotten professional help, and learned to communicate more than i did before.
i just feel like it’s not gonna go anywhere. he says he wants to date in the future, again, this is a “talking stage” but we’ve been doing this for well over a year.
i’m scared to talk to him about it, and i know, communication and all that, but i don’t wanna push him or make him feel rushed, even though this has been going on for a long time. i’m not sure what to do.
reddit pls help