Hi folks, I (45F)have been casually seeing a younger guy (24M) for few months whom I met on tinder. Things are going well except for one thing. We have pretty similiar sex drives but he has a thing for having sex in public places. I think it’s the risk of potentially being found out that he loves so much.
We have done it in the car few times and in the changing room at walmart.But he’s been wanting to do it in public bathrooms, on the beach (at night), in parks etc. The car was uncomfortable enough and i got the nastiest leg cramp. I used to be gymnast in the past so I’m used to weird positions and such but it’s really not that sexy when you are doing it vs imagining it. Esp in a car due to limited space.I am also scared of people seeing us.
We have regular sex on a bed too and it’s great. I just feel kind of bad turning him down when he keeps asking to do it in public. He makes me feel super sexy and desired and I haven’t had that in a while.
Has anyone encountered this before?Do I need to get used to this and accommodate his requests? Just to clarify he doesn’t ask for it every time we go out. Maybe once a week or so
Tldr: uncomfortable with having sex in public but want please my partner
2 comments
I think the kinks are going to keep progressing. A third party, groups. Your age gap is a kink. Set some boundaries and stick to them. He’s not thinking of kids walking into a public bathroom. You probably are.
Depends how much you want him to stay interested. But if you have boundaries, set them. Or take it one situation at a time.