I 26F am in a casual relationship with a 36 year old man. I am a virgin, he is not. When we get together it’s on fire. We don’t have PIV sex but we do almost everything else you can do, HJ,BJ,cunnilingus. It’s been getting a bit repetitive and I was wondering what are some things we can do to spice it up? He chokes me and smacks me and my ass, which I consent to. He’s very dom and I’m submissive if that helps at all? What are some things we can do to make it more interesting and exciting? I don’t want to hurt his feelings so how would I approach introducing these new things? Thank you. Weird question I know
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Toys? Vibe for you and pocket p for him
Have you tried 69ing yet? 😊
Oral and anal sex are still sex and being a virgin is not having had sex sooo….
I was involved with a virgin who wanted to play around but not cross that line, and what we would do is I would lay on my back and while hard she would push my dick against abdomen, as if it’s pointing straighten up, but I’m lying down horizontally. Anyway she would straddle me grind her clitoris back and forth on my dick as if she was humping a pillow, and she would do that until she got off, but I never entered her, because she didn’t want to cross that line, but I still think about it constantly and it’s been over 8 years.
Chastity for you 🙂 denial. Then tease. Kissing only one day. For starters.
grinding without penetration, mutual masturbation, and rimjobs!
Edging is fantastic. Finger fucking. 69. Ride his face or his hand. Rimming. Light bondage. Toys. There are lots of options.
Titjob. Sitting in his face… naked grinding/Lap dance without penetration. Let him tie you up or vice versa and then tease the other until they beg to cum…for oral–lay down on your back and dangle your head over the edge of the bed and let him stand and fuck your mouth…anything involving letting/begging him to cum somewhere and then playing with, licking it up, etc…fooling around in the shower or bathtub…there always water sports/pee play, also best tested out in the shower first …
Anal sex
Op toys, but let him use them on you. Kinda like you giving him a hand job. A good old vibrating dildo, nipple clamps, clit clamps, anal toys, sensory play (cold/hot, touch with tying up or crops/floggers not nessisarily swatting but stroking or lightly tapping sensitive areas) are all options especially since u mentioned liking choking and spanking so likely have some masochist tendencies.
Btw, I’m not into kink, not into bsdm, totally more vanilla type myself. But I’m a female and have a artistic streak and read some pretty kinky stuff because I find interest and beuayy in it so yeah I’ve got a clue. Plus my mom and step dad are into that and my mom is a dominatrix and has tmi’ed me a lot of their sex life and interests so not against or ignorant on this topic even if not something I’d ever personally want to try myself ever.
I think partly because of my own issues making that dynamic not only unappealing but not a mentally or emotionally safe one for my well being. Long story on that. That kind of relationship requires a level of vulnerability I’m unable to feel safe giving anyone ever. I can be vulnerable, just not to the degree needed for that kind of relationship. And while some aspects intrest me, its not something I have any interest to explore irl. But hey, if u feel safe and confident in that lifestyle and kind of relationship, u do u and have at it. More power to u.
just fuck him already
Tittyfucking him with loads of lube is fun. Have your tried fingerings his prostate during a bj? If your definition of a virgin is no PIV then anal is also an option. By the time I did PIV for the first time I’d literally tried everything else.
fingering, pussy job, hot dogging, toys, bondage
Rimjobs, anal, role-playing, bdsm. You haven’t scratched the surface of everything else. There is so much our there and things you’d expect to hate but find out you love if tried. Are you waiting until marriage?
Maybe anal or pegging?
Maybe just have sex. If you’re doing all this other shit holding out for vaginal penetration seems like a really dumb arbitrary measure.
Is there a reason you are not doing piv?
If its religious Im pretty sure god considers whats going on as just as bad 😉
What about buttstuff?
Thigh fucking is underrated !!!
Ass jobs! Lay on your tummy, lube up your butt cheeks, he straddles your thighs and runs his cock between your cheeks, not penetrating your anus. It’s my wife’s and my favorite alternative, super sexy and intimate!
How much dom and sub play are you into?
Sometimes my husband makes me stand in the corner naked, facing the wall, whilst he watches TV or something and if I do a good job then I get a reward 🙂
Try tickling, it’s really good for your mental health.
Cumplay. Cum spraying. Ass licking. Fingering? Depends on what you think is sex or not. I mean if ever PIV is sex, and everything else is allowed, plus you’re submissive and he’s dom, then i’d venture into anal, and bdsm.
And instead of doing what you’re doing now, i suggest to your very best ability and beyond to just cunti ue doing exactly the same things but stretching them out beyond imagination. I’m talking extreme edging. That’s a next level shit if you do it really, really long.
And then another suggestion is breathplay. Careful
What the fuck do you mean you’re a virgin?!! You’re having sex stop lying to yourself. I’m sorry but wtf
F i’m still a virgin and i understand the struggle
You can try laying on your stomach and having your partner sliding his D between the lips, moving like you had a penetration ( he can do it gently or roughly depends on what you want)
Seriously, can it still be considered virginity if you do ALL that stuff without piv?
At this point, what’s the diff?
Lay on your stomach, get some coconut oil, and pour it between your butt cheeks. Have him put his cock between your ass cheeks and smooch them together and glue his cock between your butt cheeks. Like boob sex but with your ass.
69 position blow him while he eats that ass deep with a little clit stimulating.
Read “The Bliss Club” book. It is a catalogue of non-penetrative sexual practices.
Rope bondage, toys, orgasm controldenial, sensory deprivation, there’s hundreds of things you can do, esp in the BDSM scene that don’t involve piv sexual contact.
Got nothing to add, I just wanted to say that I’m happy to read stories of virgins recently losing their virginities at less common ages! Kinda gives me hope that I can “catch the train” just yet!