How many of you have ever had emotional feelings for a fwb?

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1. The reason we were FWB was because our life style was completely different. Sex rocked but nothing else worked in our favor.

2. Yeah, I’ve definitely felt an emotional connection with my FWB before. It’s hard not to when you’re getting that close!

3. Whether you want it or not, the dopamine receptors evolved for pair bonding.

4. In my anecdotal experience, it’s about 51% of the time: 50% of the time, 1 person catches feelings, and 1% of the time, both people do.

   I’m not saying it’s an untenable relationship model, but I have *very* rarely seen it work out over a span of longer than a couple of months without emotional entanglements.

5. Happened with my only attempt at that. Went fine though. Just ended weird. We both got attached. We just had way too much sex and were together way too often. She was such a sweet cutie who was a total freak in bed.

6. The term is friends with benefits. Emotional feelings for a friend seem to be quite normal. Otherwise I wouldn’t exactly call the person a friend to begin with.

7. Yeah it happens, happened with my last one so we stopped because we had a really good friendship to begin with and didn’t want to ruin it. I think as long as you have that in mind that the second it turns into more you bring it up and sort it out, it’s not so bad.

8. I never had a fwb

9. Happens every time. I cry every time. It’s normal just another part of life.

10. Yup. I once fell in love more than I was supposed to with a FWB. When it inevitably ran its course, it was the most painful “breakup” I’ve ever experienced, and it wasn’t even really a breakup. We were never really a couple.

11. never happened to me. the women i connect with emotionally usually aren’t the types to have casual sex in the first place. i’m not from america so hookup culture isn’t as prevalent here fwiw.

12. No however they kept trying to stay in touch with me.

13. The only FWB I’ve had was actually my friend first. We’ve known each other for decades and I already cared about her alot before benefits came along. I’d never date her, though.

14. I have emotional connections with my friends

    Friends with benefits are friends.

    It’s kind of a requirement for me.

    If I want casual sex, I’d pursue a hookup.

15. For some I have felt romantic feelings. When it was time to make room for other people in our lifes and stop the benefits, I had to break contact because for me there was no way to go to friendship without continuously getting emotionally hurt every interaction we have.