Hey everyone,
So I’ve been facing this problem for a long time and I can’t find a way to work on it. So I’m terrible at small talk, I always go right to the point and that’s it. Problem is, this makes social settings awkward like in parties(Think Ross and Mark in Friends). I don’t know how to keep a conversation going and I soon become boring. Any advice on it?
Thanks!
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We have all been there! It isnt always easy. Some tips:
1. Ask questions. Even if theyre out of the blue, when that silence comes, you are doing them a favor if you give them a topic to work with.
2. Talk about yourself. Do not worry about being “that guy” who only talks about themselves. That guy has never had issues with small talk in his life, you aint him. So go for it, drop a hot take, relate to the situation with a story from your past, talk about your love life, whatever. The more personal, the better. You escape the small talk zone when you get real with people. Be vulnerable!
3. Give up. It takes two to tango. If your small talk partner isnt asking questions and talking about themselves at all, welp. You can only do so much. Sip your beverage and go “yep” like your hank hill and dont sweat it.
For situations like dates or some other social setting where the pressure is on a bit to succeed, dont be afraid to do a little prep. Have a mental list of a few topics to talk about. Otherwise, just do your best! Its not all on you, everyone has awkward moments meeting people sometimes. Thats why that friends episode is so relatable! Good luck!
I rely on questions, but also be aware of when a conversation is ready to end. It’s ok to call it quits after a while. You can also just give them a chance to contribute something, it takes two people to have a conversation. Unless you’re talking to yourself lol