Hello Men!
I am a 34F dating a 35M. Recently, life has been really hard for both of us. I’m sure many of you are probably struggling with the same things in this current economy: finances, being overworked and underpaid, bills etc.
Today has been an extra shitty day for my bf at work as they are just overloading him with a lot of crap and I just want to get some ideas of how you would like to be supported by your partner when you’re having a rough time.
I know that us women tend to do things that sometimes make things worse: ie try to solve the issue, try to talk about it more, end up being smothering and causing more issues etc.
So, any advice for me?
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>I know that us women tend to do things that sometimes make things worse: ie try to solve the issue, try to talk about it more, end up being smothering and causing more issues etc.
This is usually the case when a) something he loves but she hates/is indifferent toward is his go-to salve or b) it’s more effort to “set up” the discussion than not—or at least he suspects it’d be a net negative. Definitely avoid anything that could increase conflicts outside of work. Sometimes it’s best to leave your partner be, but you can still let him know you’re available. He may not even want to talk, just cuddle or share space.
That’s all generalized advice, of course. You’ll have to tweak it for your bf, but hopefully it helps.
Good luck.