Hello everyone I hope you’re having a fun day I’m not feeling well today so I’m stuck in bed and my mind has been wondering. Recently I’ve discovered I really like bdsm porn. It looks super hot and honestly I’ve been thinking I’d like to get involved somehow. Is there a way people get into it like dating apps or something. How do I meet people who like similar things and are accepting of new people because I understand it can be kinda extreme and probably not a good idea to jump in at the deep end
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Reddit has a lot of great communities to express yourself and learn more. Check them out! Be weary of weirdos and people trying to meet up quickly. Take your time and find what you enjoy.
it’s so deeply important to only start doing bdsm with someone you REALLY trust. i don’t recommend getting on apps for casual bdsm as a teenager. you should develop a good relationship with vanilla sex, consent, sexual communication, and confidence saying no first. people out there ESPECIALLY male doms will try to take advantage of your age and inexperience. take it slow, develop trust with someone, and ease your way into it after you really trust them.
so to answer your question, you should just date/ meet people and when sex comes up, discuss the things you’re interested in trying. don’t go out looking for a dom. go out looking for a nice person that may be interested in domming.
after you’ve found a trusted partner, under no circumstances should you try breathplay (choking or any type of blocking of ability to breathe), fluid exchange, blood/needle play, or any hardcore hitting or striking that can cause injury without talking through the parameters of the scene, getting tested, and setting safe words and safe actions.
Just to echo and emphasize… Good BDSM play is built on a lot of talking and communication and trust building beforehand. It can be a really beautiful and intimate experience if the legwork is done first. Enjoy the exploration!
Well, you’re female, 18, and want to try being a sub for the first time. So if you make a FetLife profile, your inbox will be instantly swamped with offers. That’s the easy part, but finding the right partner for you, and making sure you’re safe and not exploited or pushed beyond your comfort level, is the hard part. A more experienced woman in the local BDSM community who could provide advice or guidance might be useful to help you clarify what you do and don’t want, and where best to seek it.
Date the guys who have big dick energy until you find one who has same kinks as you and is into bdsm like you. Take your time it’s a marathon not a sprint
Can explore together
We need more female subs in fetish
You need to not explore this in a hookup type scenario.
You need to trust the person, know the person, know that they understand boundaries.
Check out “FetLife” and just observe. It’s not a hookup site but you can get a taste of the sub culture.
There are a lot of men that claim to be Doms but they really are abusers and trying to hide the fact that they are by being into BDSM.
Be careful.