So my boyfriend and I had started fighting this last Friday. We made up today (Wednesday) but during, I noticed he had started getting weird with his phone. He made a point to sleep with it under his pillow instead of putting it on the table where he usually did, and when I asked him to use his phone as a flashlight, he got up and did it for me. I’m hindsight, this by itself isn’t anything out of the ordinary, but I had my suspicions. I snooped on his phone while he was sleeping. I went on his Snapchat but didn’t find anything initially. However, after hitting the chat button the see his recents, he had cleared a chat from his feed. It was a girl he knew from high school. As of my checking today, they had a Snapstreak of three days. When I opened the conversation, I saw the only thing saved was her swiping up on his story and calling him sexy. I investigated further and found he had screenshots of her pictures from her Facebook he had taken at 1:30 Am Tuesday. He had deleted them but I don’t think he knows about the “recently deleted “ section of the photos on iPhones. I am currently anxiously waiting on his Snapchat data download and cannot sleep. Is what he did wrong? Or at least is it weird?
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you invaded his privacy. what you did was wrong. it is not justified just because you may have found something.
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this relationship is terminal, and you’re both crossed the line and are both untrustworthy.
Yeah he started talking to a girl and tried to shield it, but he gave himself away and now he got caught. The right thing to do is confess to snooping – its important to apologize first – then let him confess …. this will shut down any further sneaky business and then you guys can figure out what you were actually fighting about In The first place.
If he doesn’t confess after your telling him yo snooped his phone, then tell him “yeah I found stuff, so This is your chance to either save us, or bury us / why don’t you go ahead and talk about what I found. “.
He will so hate life right there
But no reason in the world to test him right now by playing dumb and allow him to dig a deeper hole for himself. It’s plenty deep right now. So go apologize for snooping and then let him do the talking from there on —-I hope you guys get through this