What has your experience been like dating with a physical disability?

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1. >What has your experience been like dating with a physical disability?

   I was born ugly, ¿Does that count?

2. You had a hook ups…that’s something. I had only one, with nypho girl, who was not really attractive and only decided to pick me since (as she said later) she had no available partners atm. No other women ever saw me as a man. And i am quite sure that i will never even touch attractive person in my life.

   Can’t even form stable friendships due to my mental disorders, that make it hard to communicate with people (they getting bored from my geeky interests and stop messaging), despite trying really hard and putting a lot of effort in that.

   I feel not as a human, but just as a piece of flesh, genetic mistake. They just really offer euthanasia to the people who have disabilities, especially if it’s physical+mental. But all my country can offer is a death in the trench – but even that isn’t guarantee, you can just get wounded and become even more disabled than you were before.

3. I’m on dialysis 3 days a week and need a kidney. Overall I’m pretty sick but 95% independent. I found love in a sweet nerdy boy who has a kind soul. I wish I could give advice on how to seek out people who are human. You don’t deserve the ridicule. That’s ignorant what she said to you about future kids.

   Additionally, I’ve got a friend whose wheelchair bound and fragile. He is a wonderful person. He’s smart and thoughtful and kind. But a lot of people are assholes and instantly judge the chair not the human.

   This probably sounds super corny but I’ve met amazing, kind people at funky electronic music festivals. The massive arterial port in my arm might’ve been brought up out of curiosity but never malicious. I wish I had more for you. You’re not alone. Never let assholes ruin your self-esteem. You’ll find your person! Take care.

   Edit: I JUST saw this was ask men. My bad! I’m a lady. 🥴

4. The best way to put it is “market shrinks”

5. Have you considered just changing your name to Luke and telling them that you’re just really committed to your star wars cosplay?

6. At least you get hookups. That means you are attractive. Better than being settled on.

7. Im a woman and i have erbs palsy in my left arm. When i married my ex husband, he was being a dick cause i cant hold my arm straight or turn my wrist so he could put the ring on. Should’ve never married that dummy.

   I’ve dated guys with disabilities, i never treat them any different because i know how annoying it is.

8. Dating sucks in general and it’s worse as a congenital amputee (missing my left arm below the elbow). I’m a female in my late 30s and I had a hard time finding anyone decent, but I think it’s just what’s out there atm. Your experiences are harsh though, these women sound superficial and immature.
   When going through dating apps I tend to put my disability out there first and foremost so that there’s no games, that way they’re interested in who I am as a person as well as physical attraction. But no one has made fun of me they’ve just reacted with ghosting which it is what it is, some people are too insecure or ignorant and can’t handle being with someone with a disability.
   The gym, work functions or networking events has also been a place where I’ve met people which is easiest when it comes to having to discuss my disability because it’s out there and they know instead of the whole “what happened to your arm?” question. Also going out with friends and meeting people at bars, clubs, sports events, etc. Probably not the best places but it helps when you have people around you to back you up. It’s a jungle out there though, just make time for yourself to go out and meet people, the right one will come without too much effort, it’ll flow.

9. Not to downplay your experience, but there are fully able men who have never even spoken to women at your age let alone lost their virginity

10. Largely, it’s been the most excruciatingly painful aspect of my life. I have always walked a thin line between persevering no matter what and giving up entirely.

    In 2020, I hooked up with a woman I met on Bumble a few times. I thought we were going to be long-term partners, and ***then*** she told me she couldn’t deal with the chair. Still, the nights I shared with her are among my sweetest memories. My first kiss with her was the happiest moment of my life.

    A year later, I brought home a kind, open-minded cougar from the bar. We keep in touch as friends with benefits. She’s married, but she and her husband literally live in different houses, so I don’t know what’s going on.

    A week after I met the cougar, I lost my adapted van to a massive flood and had to wait two years to get another one. I couldn’t leave my town for two years without using shitty paratransit, which can’t drive outside the county.

    In May, I was hit by a car while crossing the street. It almost ripped my leg off. I needed a muscle graft and a skin graft to fix a compound fracture. I’m still in rehab. I’ll go home in October or November, if I’m lucky. I will have missed five months of opportunities to find a partner at local events and pubs.

    I’m extroverted, so I do many things that regular people tell you to do. I go to bars every night (a luxury virtually all can’t afford; I can appreciate that). I’ve been to Meetups, most of which are terrible, especially for introverts, but there are a few good eggs out there. I’ve had fun at board game Meetups, for example, and I’ve also found opportunities to get rejected sometime near the end of events.

    The bottom line is that asking women out is nothing more than a creepier way to swipe right for them on some bogus app. I’m leaning toward acceptance right now, but that could be a product of me being stuck in the hospital, or my modicum of experience may have made me complacent. I’m sure I’ll go right back to the apps when this nightmare is over. I allow myself to fluctuate between the two extremes as comfortably as possible.

    If I ever compensate for my disability in some extraordinary way, then I might have a shot. I don’t believe I intrinsically need to compensate for my disability, but if I want a long-term partner, that’s something I’d probably need to do.

11. Where are you looking? OLD, Bars, clubs? Most people are honestly click bait and sometimes rage bait. A guy as accomplished as you really should not have any problems finding someone on your level because the bar is literally in hell for both sexes. It’s like 70% of humanity is just NPC’s or demons or something.
    Keep your head up, be happy in yourself, and your person will come. And when they do, don’t be a demon in their life.

12. Nonexistent

13. I am ugly and 5″5 feet .. penis is 4.2 girth and 5.5 length lol that is a disability

    I gave up on love lol the nition makes me laugh 😃
    Corny and I now find the whole human species 🙄 repulsive

14. I’m 35 and healthy physically and slightly mentally lol I have bad life anxiety

    And I have never dated if you have an okay looking penis and otherwise physically bland looking there us hope for you

15. I’m sorry about your experience. As a woman, I find this super perplexing, personally. Someone being an amputee would have zero impact on whether or not I wanted to date or build a life with them. And I can’t see this bothering any of my friends, either – in fact one of them dated a guy with congenital anomalies in both hands/wrists for several years. It just wasn’t an issue. And at no time did any of us doubt whether or not he was capable of doing… well, anything. It would never have occurred to us to consider whether or not he could dress himself. That’s not only incredibly disrespectful, but frankly just stupid. I hope you meet some better ladies and your luck improves, because we’re out there!

16. Is being born to grow a huge cock count?

    I Have a hard time getting dates to accept my size