In my life I come across the situation fairly frequently where I will be with some friends and sit down somewhere to have a drink. Being terribly insecure, I like not being at the edge of the table, as I feel less part of the group in that case, but usually I will just go for the most convenient spot. Is it wrong to think about these things and should I drop this childish attention-craving behaviour or is it fine to claim a bit of a central spot in the group (physically and metaphorically) as long as I’m good company? Opinions more than welcome.
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I used to worry about where I would sit in groups relative to other peoples wants and needs too.
What helped was to bring the focus back to yourself, and be kinder in your phrasing.
Let’s try this. How social am I feeling today? Enough to participate but not really talk? Edge is fine. I’ll enjoy the creature comfort and the rest can discuss. Am I really wanting to talk to everyone and be exuberant about it? Perhaps I try and position myself closer to the center of the group so I don’t have to shout.
Tldr: Sit where you would like, in accordance with what you’d like to do.
Everyone wants to sit in the middle it’s okay this is totally normal behavior