So I met this girl at my class in uni and for the first two weeks she came up to me to talk after class. During the third week I couldn’t make it to class and she said she missed me. The fourth week she asked me if we could study together and we did and hung out after we were done studying. I asked her if she wants to hang out the next day for a movie and she said yes and we hung out and she hugged me at the end. She acts like she likes me and blushes/smiles a lot while we’re talking and we hung out last time after class to study together but we ate as well and got ice cream and spent the whole time talking. Before she left I asked her if she’s dating anyone and she said she’s not but she’s not looking for a relationship rn because she’s trying to work on her career and that if she get’s into a relationship she’ll want to see them all the time and she won’t have time for other areas of her life and she said gets a bit co-dependant. Then she asked me if i’m looking for a relationship and I told her I don’t mind being in one but i’m not looking. Then when we said goodbye she hugged me with one arm this time and she said but thank you for spending time with me as I was leaving. She texted me afterwards and thanked me for spending time with her and asked me if I got home safe. So i’m a bit confused cause I feel like she was basically saying she doesn’t want to date me? I’ll still hang out with her either way but I don’t know if I should have hope or just move on.
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TLDR; girl said she’s not looking for a relationship when I asked her if she’s dating anyone. Should I move on?
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If she’s being truthful, then move on. If she isn’t, do you really want to deal with such ambiguous behaviour? Either way you might want to just move on. Someone who actually wants to date you will make it clear if you both have healthy communication skills.