Im in my late 30s Since i broke up with my ex (my only relationship to date of about 2 years) about 2.5 years ago, I feel like I might be ready to try and date again, alot has changed in my life in that time but 2 things are kind of holding me back..
I’ve realised that I am trans, I’ve started getting myself on the path to transition, im having to embrace that as a transwoman who is attracted to women the dating scene is going to be much harder for me.
I’m still working on coming out to the people in my life, with only few family,friends knowing so far. I’m working on going wider with the knowledge but it’s all a bit scary at times, and mostly I’m doing this by myself.
There is a woman I kind of fancy, i see around sometimes but we are not close friends (because im awkward with social things). In order to be upfront with her I would need to both come out to her and ask her out in close proximity, i can’t see that going too well.
The other is that I’m worried im not really over my ex, I still catch myself worrying about her from time to time and there are still times when I feel really sad knowing we are done. These are becoming fewer slowly but I feel I might be ready to try again with someone new.
And advice for me?
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As a transwoman, you’re going to have to get used to taking risks IMO. Life won’t be easy, opportunities will be limited; the best you can do is learn to sieze the moment and handle when things don’t work out (and most of the time things won’t work out). You’ll probably wanna date other trans women, I assume if you believe you qualify as a woman then they should too, so this shouldn’t be an issue and will be your most realistic target demographic for dating
Also you 100% need to move on from your ex, I’m sure you already know that though.