Hello everyone. I’m [F42] recently divorced and looking to get back out into the dating scene and have some fun. It’s been years since I’ve been in the dating scene and with all these apps and things I’m a bit confused. Are places like tinder/bumble good places for someone like me or is it full of teenagers? Just asking as I want some fun
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As male who’s a couple of years younger than you in a similar situation: yes, datings apps like Tinder and Bumble have plenty of people in our age range who are looking for something casual or are looking for a FWB.
You can also use Feeld, which a bit more open minded.
And from what I heard of other women on dating apps, you’ll get plenty of attention. The hard part is filtering out the men that are a honest about their relationship status, are a bit decent and don’t come with a lot of drama.
I always had a lot of success on Tinder and Bumble attracting women of all ages. Having good pics and personable responses are key. Feeld is fun. I enjoy that it’s straight and to the point of what you want to try.
And 42 isn’t an older woman 😄
Match costs money which is good as all the cheap people are eliminated. There is a nice segment of people in their 40’s and 50’s.
Bumble is pretty good for that age group.
Hinge is ok.
Tinder is a hookup wasteland.
My advice is to be honest with your photos and bios.
Do not go crazy liking too many guys at once, you can burn through them. Only like the ones you really like a lot and pick a few.
It starts slow and builds. Be patient.
No date without a phone call first. Take notes on the call.
Personally, I believe it’s silly to date only one person at a time while dating.
I have really enjoyed my rounds of dating. It’s supposed to be lighthearted and fun!
My best round was at age 45. Second best round at 49.
Go get ‘em!
42M recently divorced here. I’ve had a lot of fun on Bumble and Tinder. I haven’t found something long-term yet, and maybe I’m not ready for that just yet. I did find an amazing, consistent FWB that way. Our age group isn’t older, we’re really in our prime. Seriously!
Just came to say that at 42 you are not an old woman! 🙂
42 is an older woman…. Since when?!?
My 50 year old ass says you’re not the oldest one there. Just looking to have some fun? Yeah, I’ll totally swipe right on a young hottie like you. 😉
Tinder is full of all ages. I have only ever used it for casual sex and have successfully been able to find hookups that turned into a fwb.
As an older guy (pushing 60), I’ve had good success with all of them, but you have to be very selective with regards to who you swipe right on. Plenty of people are surreptitiously looking for their next relationship so if what you want is casual, be up front with them. Feeld is very good to that end. You can also sign up for SLS (swing life style). It’s for swingers and people looking to add a third and whatnot but the advantage is, no one will be looking for a relationship, just having fun. Trust me, the upfront honesty of Feeld and SLS is refreshing.
Totally depends on where you live. If you live in a big city you will have lots of options no matter what app. If you live in the middle of nowhere it will be nothing.
Hello! Its okay, you’re not that old. You can have some fun!! Never too late!
My experience with tinder is mixed. I am 40 and found it difficult to connect or generate many matches (I am not super handsome but above average I would say). Tinder so more on the younger side. Having said that, I found a partner there but it took quite some time and effort.
Not sure about other apps though.
50F, I’ve had some really good matches on Bumble. Dating a guy now who I met there. I only match with anyone my age or older, but I typically get plenty of likes from 45 and under too.
Como on!! You are not old!!! You are not arrived at your sexual peack yet
You should be able to find whatever you’re looking for on this apps especially if it’s mostly just low key fun. Plenty of people of all ages want casual relationships.
I have been on Hinge, Bumble, Tinder and Feeld. The big thing is being honest about what you’re looking for, BUT a lot of men take it as a free pass. Feeld is my favorite, then Tinder. Bumble is fine but I don’t like Hinge.
Just use this… Post a pic on your Reddit. And pick and choose from your inbox.
You’re not old at 42 and just to let you know, there’s a ton of men and women who would have sex with and older woman.
I feel so bad for your unsolicited, dick pick filled inbox after this post 😂 🤦♀️
Go for it.
Here’s a good one pfrivera1969@gmail.com
When you said “older” I assumed in the 60s, maybe retired. You’re in your prime age for dating and having casual sex! None of the apps are ageist, just download them all and see what’s available.
I got divorced at 37 (f) and have had no shortage of fun encounters with people and amazing sex. I used Bumble, Hinge, (these are more dating oriented, but you can definitely find casual too, just be clear in your profile what you’re looking for) Feeld (kinky and alternative lifestyle focused) and Pure (hookups, sexting and calls with strangers).
I personally had the most fun on Feeld and Pure because people tend to be straightforward about their intentions over there.
47 and it’s so easy to use dating apps etc to hook up 😈
When I read “older woman” i tought someone at the age of 60-70…
Good luck woman. Have fun and enjoy your years.
Don’t know where you’re from or if it’s an option for you, but what about Swingers clubs?