To keep things short and to the point, my long term girlfriend has a fair amount of anxiety about being an active participant in dirty talk while love making.
She’s 100% super into it when I do it.
She’s just got a few hang ups with participating in it herself.
I completely get it, it can honestly a very vulnerable position to be in, and it’s an objectively ridiculous an comical thing to do…
But when done well, it’s incredible.
We’ve spoken about this more than a few times, trying to figure out ways to ease her stage fright.
If anybody here has overcome this phobia, please do share anything that may have helped you to get more comfortable with dirty talk.
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Hi! It can definitely be scary when you’re first trying! I totally empathize with her. I’m not an expert but do have some ideas lol
Have you discussed specific phrases you’d like her to say? Maybe having a few of those to fall back on can help her feel more confident when she’s not sure what to say next.
You could also try roleplaying a scenario so she has more of a storyline to follow in her head.
Also there is a lot of free erotic literature out there she/you both may want to look into.
It’s going to take time and practice, and sometimes there’s awkward moments in sex. As long as you two can laugh it off and not make a big deal of those moments, I’m sure she’ll get the hang of it! Good luck
It is tricky. Unfortunately, my wife can get a terrible fit of the giggles and if she finds a specific bit of dirty talk funny she can dissolve into laughter. Now having her vagina rhythmically crushing your cock while she guffaws is not unpleasant! But it’s difficult to focus on your thrusting and her orgasm when she is laughing her head off. Bit of a mood killer!