I 18f have a boyfriend 18m.
We both like foreplay to last a while (generally) When we’re making out and he’s touching me all and kissing me I tend to grab and stroke his dick, it’s what I enjoy.
He says if I was just touching it or stroking it very lightly it would be fine, but he’s told me repeatedly to slow it down in general because I’m probably wanking him off and he thinks it affects how long he’ll last when he gets inside me. And because I never do he wants me to just not do that anymore.
But I can’t help it, I’ll have it in my head to be really slow but then it’ll just naturally get faster or my grip a bit firmer I’m not doing it on purpose.
And I don’t really see the issue with the system we had with that because he’d gently move my hand away sometimes then 30-60 seconds later I’d be back at it (that’s a good cool off time right?)
I cant imagine it makes that big a difference, I don’t notice much of a difference honestly with how long he lasts no matter what sex we’re having. My hand and my vagina are two very different types of stimulation surely it shouldn’t really be making a difference.
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I mean if you make him cum first and then get him hard again he will last longer in bed if that is what he is worried about.
Just let him know you don’t care if he finishes faster. It is 100% a real thing at least sometimes. If you have a light trigger day or you cum easily. Even light touch. Can you turn the light trigger to a hair trigger.
Just from a guys point of view the problem could be is his dick can become overly stimulated with aggressive handjobs. Actually nulls the feelings of intercourse and might lead to him not being able to get off.
If he says not you you should respect what he says and not push him if he doesnt want it.
If you dont care how long he lasts, tell him and then if he agrees. Go for it.
He said he doesn’t like it so he doesn’t like it. Either you need to consciously slow down and be aware the entire time or you need to respect his wishes and stop.
Maybe have a discussion about it outside of the bedroom.
But fucken hell his No is just as valid as yours. He’s asked you to stop and you keep doing it. No means no.
HJ are not as easy as you may think. To me, it sounds as if you are simply too harsh: to fast, to firm, without spit or lube, this can become uncomfortable.
Maybe you just refrain from doing it for some time as he asked you to. And next time, try to be more gentle. Go slow, see his reaction, use either some lube or spit.