I’m a male 22 years old. I don’t have a job a friend and social life. My life cycle is sleep, eat if we don’t have water I will go outside and buy if there’s no people sitting outside I’m a Filipino and I live in squatter’s area every corner I pass by there’s a lot of people. And the hardest part is those people like to gossip about other people’s life(we call them marites). Whenever someone try to talk to me I’ll get so scared that my forehead starts to sweat and I’ll smile awkwardly. And they hate me for it.
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youre definitely overthimking this
I have social anxiety also especially when I’m with friends and they have their other friends around I always feel out of place when they talk about stuff I have no idea about, and I get so closed off and don’t wanna say nothing, but I talk to my friends because I already know them
you might need to work with a professional if you feel your social anxiety is severe
1) you may want to mention that you have physiological reactions such as perspiration and that feeling like your brain is shutting down.
2) you may want to also mention about the environment you live in. You are surrounded by people whom you have said to engage in gossiping. This is understandably cause for personal concern as this kind of behavior can significantly affect social standing within a community such as mistrust in you.
I had to look up what “squatters area” meant as I’m honestly just not familiar. If it is financially not feasible for you to work with a professional counselor or a therapist, you may need to see if there are online resources about how to manage your social anxiety. Be cautious though while it helps to share mutual experience with peers and people have good intentions in giving advice, my post included, we may inadvertently be overstepping our bounds in terms of what is good or bad advice.
Below is a resource that may help. Try to look for a blurb that talks about what experience the author has whenever you access material and do your due diligence in determining how much credence you will give them.
https://hbr.org/2019/05/how-to-stop-worrying-about-what-other-people-think-of-you
Finally, regardless of how you go about dealing with these challenges, you will likely face adversity so having a strong emotional support network and learning how to lean on it for support can go a long way.