I started to see this guy who is a single dad. He is co-parenting a six year old. He broke up with the mom because of several emotional cheating (calling and texting guys behind his back) and she admitted not being in love with him anymore when the kid was born. This broke him huge that he doesn’t have trust to commit again for a long time.
I have gotten out of a relationship myself so I’m just casual and not that serious. But unexpected things. We started to talk and have had good conversations that put a smile on my face. We met up and just really had a good time. We have been talking everyday, meeting up everyday and admitted that we like each other. I think I feel for him but I wanted to protect my heart and make sure he’s just not playing around. Same goes for him. It’s just unexpected to feel happy this way again.
What are the signs he’s serious? We talked about meeting the kid when we’re at least three months as to not confuse and respect. We also talked about not seeing other people, he said after meeting me he is tied up and “is with me” except he never said about a relationship. He is super nice and sweet to me, that each time we have sex it’s like making love. He’s a bit introverted and doesn’t seem to have a social life. We match about similar interests and humor. I’m afraid I’m gonna get hurt
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So let me get this straight:
* you are regularly have amazing sex
* you are rapidly developing a deep friendship and make each other laugh etc
* you meet every single day in person
* sounds like there is quite a bit of emotion, dare I say “love”
* he’s openly admitted he won’t see other people (and sounds like you are tracking that way if not already there)
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You ARE in a meaningful relationship right now, and sounds like it is going super well, congrats! 🙂
The formalization + labels and all that will come quickly enough, but it is most definitely a relationship.
It sucks to potentially get hurt, but I’m not sure anyone has figured a way past that. If you fall in love, that is the risk you take. Everything you posted here sounds super positive.. perhaps as next steps you can start working your way through the big potential deal-breakers to get those out of the way because otherwise this all sounds amazing.
Things like being in sync on: religion/politics/values, desire for future kids or parenting styles, sex compatibility (you already said “great sex” so sounds like you are in great shape here, what I’m talking about is just in case he or you have a kink you absolutely need that hasn’t come up yet), a few things like this but otherwise sounds like everything is on track, happy for you!
Sounds like he’s already committed himself to a relationship to me. I’m not sure what you’re concerned about.